I'm mean literally lost the person has passed, how do you go on, why is it so hard
2007-03-28 04:06:10 · 14 answers · asked by ♥NEVAR♥ 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I don't know baby.. I am sorry.. but you need yer friends to help u though it all..
2007-03-28 13:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because time has passed I can reflect and say I loved and was loved by an Honorable man, I was 14 when I met him, married at 19, had my first child at 26, my second at 28, he died aged 36. I do not think myself unfortunate, quite the opposite, many, many people never know love like this, I did therefore I'm lucky, funny how time makes you more philosophical and able to see things from a different angle. Not to take away from how you feel now, I wouldn't wish it on anyone, be kind to yourself and remember the good, big hug from me to you.
2007-03-28 11:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by mia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot of time, and you go on because you just know you need to. My beliefs are you can still talk to that person, they live in your heart. They understand you better because they can see all you. They are always there for you and some day you will meet again.
However the pain seems to last forever, just not as hard as it is at first.
2007-03-28 11:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. The only way I can describe my pain is a burning sensation in my chest. Time will help you go on but you will often think of them. Don't let anyone tell you to just get over it because people that do that have not lost anybody close to them. I just try to think that they are no longer in this miserable world that we are in and that helps me go on and the hope that maybe I will see them again one day.
2007-03-28 11:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by K~E~G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been engaged four times, the first and last I managed to marry; the 2nd and third both died. One of cancer, of his own stubbornness, because he refused the chemo that might have saved him; the other of a heart attack while doing something he KNEW he should not have been doing. I think the anger kept me going. They both basically killed themselves. Guy 1 had Hodgkins, of all the cancers, one of the easiest to put into remission; he was 'tired of fighting diseases' he said (had heart trouble for a long time). Guy two had had a major heart attack two months before, and was told not to drive, not to do anything stressful...he had driven to a major city, and into it, on freeways, to visit his daughter at the hospital where she was having a baby. He died in the hall outside her room. I was devastated for months, in both cases, but managed to get so mad, because neither of them *had* to die the way they did, that I worked through it. Also, having good friends helped. The night guy two died, we all gathered at one of his oldest friends' houses and sat there and cried for hours. Friends really help, people who will let you feel bad. Don't keep that in. You need to cry, grieve, a lot, so you can go on.
2007-03-28 11:13:53 · answer #5 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard. My fiance was my first love and I lost him in a car accident caused by a drunk driver. Time doesn't heal a thing. It is what happens in that time that heals you. I was lucky to fall in love again and meet my husband but my fiance will always have a place in my heart.
2007-03-28 11:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by On the upside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all!
i think it is because our hearts and are souls are so into someone that we love so much that when they die suddenly
apart of use dies with them. and it will feel as if you will never get apart of that piece back that you lost, but trust me you'll get it back. but remember this, ,the love that you shared with the person who passed on will never died ,it will always be there.
Pabytaw2 :)
2007-03-28 11:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by pabytaw2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to stay in bed and pull the covers over my head for about a year. I told myself every day that he wouldn't want that. I told myself that one thing I knew for sure was that he loved me and wanted me to be happy. The hurt (loss) never goes away completely - but time and new happiness help heal. I am sending you a big hug. You are beautiful.
2007-03-28 11:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to celebrate the life of the person. It is very hard and you will always feel the loss. Talk to them... write a note and put it in a balloon..... this person is always with you, but don't grieve to long... it makes the spirit sad. let them go, but keep them in your heart. good luck
2007-03-28 11:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by ncbound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had a bf years ago who was killed in a car accident, and all I can say is you gotta move on. I was in a depression for a while, but life goes. It was worse dwelling on the negative. I'll always remember the good time, and that's all we can do!
2007-03-28 11:21:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa T (Stop BSL) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
_uck em. I am not about to drag my sorry butt through the mud for a person that took a big dump on me years ago. In my case most of them look pretty dam pathetic and I still look pretty much the same as I did ten years ago. Inside I am much stronger and that is what counts to me.....
2007-03-28 11:19:42 · answer #11 · answered by Amole Bush 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋