I am almost 5 months pregnant, and yesterday, after I got in a huge fight with my husband, I started getting really intense pains in my lower stomach. They felt like period cramps, only worse, and they would come and go. They lasted for approximately 4 hrs. I called my doctor and he said that unless fluid, blood, anything came out of me, I was OK, it was just my muscles stretching down there. He said that the fight probably set it off, and that that is not supposed to happen, but that a lot of women end up coming to him after a big fight, with stomach pains such as mine and so I should be OK. He said if any blood came out, go to the hospital then. He told me to go home and lie down, and I did, and about 2 hrs. later, the pains stopped. I just woke up the next morning now, and I feel OK, but my question to you is 'If nothing came out (no discharge or blood), is it possible that I had a miscarriage? Does something HAVE to come out?' The pains were really intense, so I'm just scared. Thx.
2007-03-28 04:02:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
THANK YOU everyone for your great answers. Nina
2007-03-28 04:11:58 · update #1
WOW all the replies are so appreciated that there is no way that I can choose a best answer. I will leave that to the voters. Thanks again.
P.S. No more fighting.
2007-03-28 06:08:46 · update #2
Many women start getting Braxton- Hicks contractions at about five months into their pregnancies. Your doctor is correct that you are not having a miscarriage. Try to relax and minimize stress in your life.
2007-03-28 04:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by not too creative 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The discharge is one of the obvious symptoms of a miscarriage, so I think your doctor probably doesn't want you to come in unless that occurs.
But, the real problem is not that you 'almost had a miscarriage' but the reason you 'almost had a miscarriage'--this is not the time for fights. I know you are popping with hormones and all stressed and such, but you have got to come to some understanding with yourself and the people around you that you don't need stress.
If your husband isn't going to give you a stress free environment, then you need to walk away. Not out of the marriage--god no, but just to another room. Let him have the last word, let him score a verbal point--just get away and rest.
Your primary and main focus right now is a) your baby's health, b) your health, c.d.e.f.g.h.i.j.k.l.m.n.o.p.q) winning an argument with your husband.
Consider talking with him and explaining the danger of excessive stress, and then ask him if he really has a argument with you on a point, if he can write it down and bring it up again in about five months and you'll deal with it then...
2007-03-28 04:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by apleyden 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 4 months pregnant I got in a fight with my husband and I had the same problems. I thought for sure I was having a miscarriage because I was having sharp pains in my stomach for 3-4 hrs. Everything ended up being fine and I now have a beautiful 4 month old baby girl.
2007-03-28 04:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Khristina S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you miscarry, your body will need to flush itself -- so yes, you'll have discharge, blood, etc. Many women don't know they've had a miscarriage until the blood and discharge begins. I suppose it's possible for the flushing to be delayed, but I think your doctor's likely a smart cookie who's seen this stress-reaction before.
Trust your doctor's advice. Can you hear a heartbeat yet, to get a stethoscope and listen for yourself? Or feel the baby kicking, to hold your hand on your belly and wait?
If you're still afraid after trying those things (as possible), make an appointment for a checkup with your doctor.
2007-03-28 04:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had a miscarriage you would know. There would be blood and a baby. Sorry to sound harsh. Even with miscarriages you labor enough for the cervix to open and baby to be expelled. Take it easy the next few days and try to keep calm through the pregnancy, I know easier said than done. Make sure to stay hydrated too as this can ause cramping. Good luck
2007-03-28 04:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by krispeds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're scared, but really, you shouldn't be.
You're doing everything right. Just take it easy. You see if emotional distress may have caused this reaction, then perhaps you should try to get yourself in a relaxed and happy state of mind.
So, right now you should just take it easy and get your mind out of this and preoccupied with other things.
Ask you Dr if you can get an ultrasound done. Tell your dr you need a peace of mind, and discuss it further with him/her until you are satisfied w/ the answer. If the answer doesn't satisfy you, tell your dr that the answer isn't satisfying you and if it's possible to just get an ultrasound done.
Hopefully you're OK!
I wouldn't worry about it too much! =)
2007-03-28 04:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doctor sounds right, I've never had a miscarriage , but I know people that have and my mom had 5, and blood clots always come out, because the baby isn't attached to the uterus anymore. It sounds like you're halfway now, I doubt you'd have a miscarriage unless you took a hard fall or something like that.
2007-03-28 04:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by aprilmommy06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after 20 weeks the baby has to come out in a miscarriage so I imagine there would be alot of blood before this happened. If the doctor told you that you are fine and you have no bleeding I would say you are fine. to ease your mind see if the dr. will let you come in and check the baby's heartbeat!! good luck and relax!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-28 04:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Doctor is right! Something does have to come out to miscarry! I know it's scarey, just try to relax! If you are really worried go to your doctor and have him let you listen to the heartbeat. You also may consider renting a home doppler at bellybeats.com, so you can hear the baby any time you like. It sounds like all is well! Best wishes!
2007-03-28 04:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by gracie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your stage a miscarriage would start with bleeding, but you would actually have to deliver , so the bleeding wouldn't stop nor the pain. You should be fine. try staying stress free and try to not yell. All these things that get us angry can effect us painfully. I had the same thing though and my son is wonderful good luck
2007-03-28 04:10:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋