Men would you be willing to work things out??

Question

Men would you be willing to work things out with your wife if during a leagal seperation that lasted a year she got pregnant with another mans baby?Been married 4 yrs and before my seperation with my hubby we were trying to get pregnant for almost 2 yrs. This put a lot of strain on our relationship causing a lot of fights he wanted us to have a baby to complete our family.He started accusing me of trying to prevent pregnancy which was not the case.Then it became that i was working to much he accused me off having an affair not true at all.He moved out saying he needed space. He has been living in california but called me to say he is moving back to N.J because he wants to work things out?

Answer 1

Are you telling me that you are pregnant with another man's baby, but deny your husbands accusation that you had an affair?

Honey, if you are married and had sex with a man who was not your husband, separated or otherwise, you had an affair.

Even if what you are saying is that you did not have sex with this guy before you separated, that's going to be a tough sell now.

Would I be willing to work it out? It depends, what is YOUR plan for ensuring that you don't ever have another affair? What is your plan regarding the child?

It certainly is possible, but I'd certainly take a wait and see approach, watching your actions.

Looking at your previous question, I would be hard pressed to get back onto your train, given the previous train-wrecks with this other man.

It's an important detail that you have a prior child with this man, and are currently pregnant with his child again.

Answer 2

Didn't you submit the same question yesterday? Are you trying to change up the wording in hopes of a more favorable response?
Being somewhat of a religous man, I would look at this way. You were already seperated and while seperated you got knocked up by another guy, I'd take that as a hint from God that it might be time to move on.

Answer 3

You two have been through a lot together but remember that he is still probably the same person. I think you should spend some time together ands do a lot of talking and soul searching before you jump back in to a relationship with him. I would talk to him about your child and if he will be able to accept this child without resentment. It could be a very sticky situation. Counseling would be a good idea for both of you before you make any committments.

Answer 4

No, but who really cares what he wants or if he is willing to work things out? It's too much drama and baggage. He sounds like an emotional jerk. He had to have a kid to complete the family, as if you were not enough for him. He accuses you of lying and cheating. He is insecure and a control freak. He doesn't know what true love is. He is a loser who already left you once. You should be happy he is gone and be done with him.

Answer 5

Oh, boy, I can't even finish reading the question? It sounds like a very big problem. Sounds like a blame game going on. Can you remember why you got together? Remember that.

Answer 6

The woman I was still married to was having unprotected sex with other men during our separation period? Now she's pregnant because of her irresponsibility?

No way. I'd have more pride.

Answer 7

if you did get back together it would be more of a strain and with the child that ain't his it would be hard but you never know go for it, you only live once

Answer 8

Nope, nada, forget it. Legal sepoeration is not a ticket to do anything you want, its serious time to review your life, marriage and work on resolving issues and what do you do. Get pregnant.

Answer 9

don know
the theory of evolution dictates the male not opened to abetting someone's gene pool that is not his own.

Answer 10

I am pretty sure my hubby would send me packing if I did what you did.