How do you sort out feelings you don't understand?

Question

Do you talk to someone? Who?
I've tried talking to my boyfriend, writing in a journal, etc. and I still don't understand the emotions I am going through. I dont know what to do!

Answer 1

I still think writing it down helps, praying, and also talking to friends. Sometimes it just takes time. Be patient with yourself! Take care!

Answer 2

There are some things I've felt before that I never ended up understanding, regardless of how much I talked, prayed, or journaled about it. When that happened normally I didn't understand what was going on until I re-read my journal several weeks/months later.

Not sure what you're going through but I would say, sometimes it's not always important to "understand" the way you feel. Look at Forrest Gump. That's one of my favorite movies because he really didn't understand or comprehend anything. He just lived, breathed, and loved. He just felt like running, so he did. No thought to it whatsoever.

I think nowadays we think a little too much, analyze, and want things figured out... but really we just need to sit back, live, breathe, and love.

Answer 3

Sounds very painful, and reaching out to figure it out says that you still maintain the ability to rationalize what is going on.
I have seen this method work for more than a few women, so I hope you give it a try. With a pad and paper, sit down in front of your stereo, and put in a song that is upbeat, life affirming, fun. Let yourself get lost in the song, then at the end of it, write down what popped into your head, no matter what it was. Then do the same with a ballad, a blues piece, and then something soulful. Once you do that, look at the paper and you will see some patterns emerge. Start there...good luck, I wish you well.

Answer 4

Many of us are highly emotional. Our emotions can be triggered by a song, a few words, a smell, a sight...the list of 'triggers' is endless! These emotions seem to rise up out of nowhere and fill us with dread, unhappiness. Other people, seem to just live life in a very 'untouched' way...just gliding through it all!

We emotional ones have to be very creative! I can share some of the things that have helped me and hope it helps you!

My mind can take me on 'trips' into the emotional realm...sooo, when a 'dreary thought' pops into my head, I am getting better at catching them! I just don't let them take root! Mulling over negative thoughts is a killer...they cannot be stopped, but they can be ignored until they fade away! Really! Try it! It actually becomes fun!

Active hobbies are good for us emotional types...running, bicycling, scrapbooking, photography (a great one!!!), journaling is good, but can feed the negative thoughts more 'food', flower arranging...keeping fresh flowers around...even wild flowers, taking bubble baths...doing the nails. Make a list of people you like/love...create 'homemade' greeting cards..they will love it! Do this every-now-and-then...

Feelings will always 'rise up' and that's okay...your are feeling oriented (some people are 'task oriented' and don't understand feeling types!!) You cannot sort out feelings, but YOU CAN LET THEM FLY ON BY! Sorting them out gets you too close to them...that's trouble.

We feeling types can just over do it! We will always CARE but just need to watch how far we go with it.

One more thing, this can be a lonely life. No one can fill all the voids...this is where only being creatively pro-active will help.

Answer 5

Take life SLOW...a day at a time..a felling at a time....do not try to understand too much at once...some things you will never understand..ever...so don't beat your self up over some of it....go to the book store and get some books about this...read...I do...it works...my life is full now...a journal is wonderful and talking to people that really care about you is too but you need professional advice...get some books...good luck..just remember too....EVERYTHING happens because it is supposed to happen...it is part of GODS plan for you...just control the things you can and be happy!

Answer 6

Writing in a journal is good. Keep doing that. Also, try talking to someone you trust, like your best friend or mom. If all else fails, go to a pshyciatrist. They can help you work through anything.

Answer 7

Sorting out feelings you don't understand is impossible. Why you feel a certain way is caused by something or someone. Try looking at the cause and stop focusing on the affect. You solve causation and the affect melts away.

Answer 8

I went trough that a couple of months ago, I would talk to my husband, write, I just about came to my wits end with it. I eventually gave up and because I was not trying to figure out what was going on with I realized my answer, so in short you are simply trying to hard to figure out your emotions. Don't completely give up just put it on the back burner and it will come to you.

Answer 9

The steps to working out your issues will vary depending on the issues themselves. You have not provided sufficient information for anyone to work with to try to offer a valid recommendation. What are the "feelings" you talk about?

Answer 10

Try to find someone to talk to that will listen whole heartedly and ask you the right questions. If someone asks you the right questions then you may be able to understand your feelings. I would suggest counseling.