If both of us are "good" and active parents, is "shared-parenting" or rotating custody the best thing?

Question

We have one child, a five year old.

Answer 1

really it is whatever works for you three that matters....I gave seen it done several different ways by parents who are mature enough to manage it....good for you all for the sake of your child!!

Answer 2

Which ever one that works best for the 5 year old. Both parents should have equal access to the child. Personally I think constant contact is best for the child. Make sure you two live within a couple miles of each other in the same school area, so the child can maintain her school friendships. Actually as a divorced couple you will have to make more compromises then if you had stayed married. Most ex wives can not do this. They are too controlling. May you be blessed for doing this for the child.

Answer 3

Children thrive on order and consistency. Whatever arrangements work best for you and your ex regarding the time spent with each parent -- make sure that the rules and basic schedule are the same at both houses. Most of the shared-custody conflict comes from either radical parenting differences between houses, or when parents act out their hostility toward one another through their kids.

I'd say rotating custody is best, for the set-schedule part, but whatever works for your situation.

Answer 4

This arrangement takes some effort on both your parts. I think the bottom line to it is stability. A child who seemlessly moves between two households is much better off than the ones that have to make drastic adjustments in each. Raise your child in concert and do not have the environment that allows your child to pit one against the other. Support of a decision at one household needs to be supported at the other. An example is if a behavior is unacceptable here then it is unacceptable there. This takes good communication between care givers. Good luck and be reasonable.

Answer 5

I believe that joint custody is the best in this case. Good luck to the both of you and I am so glad it is going well for you both. This is great! Sharing the child is the best thing here that way both mom and dad are very strong and steady in the childs life. Much more stable and happy this way if you ask me.

Answer 6

I have been divorced for over 6 years,and we have always rotated custody with our one child. It gives your child the oppurtunity to have two parents with two seperate lives to be in both environments, and we are also both active and positive, so I think is is real good for the child. If you don't switch custody and both parents want the child in their lives, then not having that ability will make the kid come to their own conclusions, and I just feel it worked out well in our situation. It made our child know that both parents love her and she is always welcome in both places.

Answer 7

i think anytime two parents can get along enough to make the best choice for the child is wonderful.
My x and i share custody 50/50... all decisions are made thro one another...our children love it...they see both of us equal amounts of time.. we attend sports functions together with our 'other' families'...we go to school events together...all aspects of there lives are shared...and our children LOVE the fact that we all get along... he's remarried and i love his wife shes wonderful to our children...they have 2 other children who play with my 'now' husbands son... WERE ALL a family and we wouldnt have it any other way..

Answer 8

I think its the best idea . That gives you and him a chance to reorganize your lives . Its very hard to raise a child yourself . I wish my ex would take our son half of the time It would make life allot better for us . It would give me time to do what i have to do . The way it is now im missing out on allot of opportunities to advance myself money and relation wise

Answer 9

Sounds like the best thing to me

Answer 10

I think that it is good as long as the schedule is consistant. There shouldn't be any breaks in it unless an emergency comes up,.