I can stay but my husband must move out. He no longer has a home if he doesn't do as she wants or see fits. Regardless if he pays them money or not. He must still work for her and regardless if works. I chose not to stay 0r force him to do the work, is that ungrateful?
2007-03-28 03:49:19 · 12 answers · asked by Franchesca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mother is controlling. She probably is giving you a deal on the rent or you are living there free. She does this so she has control over you. If you are married then I suggest you look for another place to live with your hubby and nicely tell your mom "thank you" for letting you save some money up so you can get on your feet and get your own place. Then grow up and grow a home with your hubby. Your husband need not do anything for your mom that he does not owe her. Just tell her he is too busy. The two of you can work wonders together if you stick together and get out from under the thumb of your overbearing mom.
2007-03-28 04:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your question is hard to understand. But if I get it right, you are living on your mother's rental property, and if you and your husband don't do everything she wants when she wants it, he has to move out.
Here is my take.
If you are paying rent, you qualify as a tenant. There are laws in place to protect you and you should contact The Department of Family Services for some help. They may not be able to provide the help, but should be able to point you in the right direction.
If you are not paying rent, it depends on the state. Some still protect your rights if you have no where else to go. Some don't. Find out which your state is.
If your rights are protected even without rent payments, use the protection.
If your rights are not protected without rent, the two of you need to seek employment with someone besides your mother and move out ASAP.
EDIT:
By the way you ended the question, it sounds like you might have already made the decision to move out due to her controlling ways, and want to know if you are being ungrateful.
In that case, no, you're not. It's good for you and your husband to be on your own and out fromunder the control of your parents. Children grow up, parents need to learn to let go. You are being responsible and making the right decision. Your mother is out of line to try and control her grown and married child's life.
2007-03-28 03:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He should do the work if he wants to stay there BUT if he moves it is up to you if you want to move out with him or not. The choice is up to you. He is your husband though so if he goes you really should go with him. Why is your mom making him her slave if i may ask. Is she giving you guys free rent for it? I think it would be better off if you both move to a place of your own without your moms influence on the marriage. Your privacy and marriage should come first. Good luck to you!
2007-03-28 03:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are rented a property, you are paying to stay at a property that will not belong to you, but you are entitled to your privacy. Your mother can't force either of you to do something because you are a renter. Move out and pay someone that will give you privacy. i don;t believe in married couples living w/ family anyway. Too complicated, plus you two are suppose to begin your lives together w. no interference.
2007-03-28 03:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sharisse F 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's time for both of you to get your own place. How in the world are you ever going to know what it's like to be on your own and married when you are living with your mother? Thank you.
2007-03-28 04:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that if are renting from your parents you probably do need to do what they wish with their property. If it doesn't work for you and your husband , find another place to live and get out from under your Moms rules. Graciously thank her for letting you stay there but tell her that you feel like it's time to move on. Keep the peace and make yourselves happy.
2007-03-28 04:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, I think it's bad that your mom would give you something and put a stipulation on it that she try to control your happiness by forcing you away from your husband. I assume you are legal age and capable of making your own decisions. She should be supporting your marriage decision.
2007-03-28 04:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move out of there and u 2 start ur own life with out her bossing u guys around
2007-03-28 03:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by dirbe22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd move out without any notice. Anyone telling me how to run my personal life, that crap don't fly with me.
2007-03-28 04:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's called growing mature enough to work for where you live.
2007-03-28 03:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋