how do i stop feeling like this?

Question

feel down and peed off all the time i cut my wrist due to this i see a councoller but it still is hard to smile any advice please

Answer 1

Are you depressed? Are you seeing your doctor?

These are my tips for coping with depression, maybe one or two may help you ~

1) Talk - bottling things up doesn't help. Externalise your emotions. Work through your thoughts, and try and understand why you are having them, and if they are helpful or not.

2) Keep a diary - work out what 'triggers' you have, make lists of things that make you feel good and things that make you feel bad. Look at your lists often.

3) Eat healthily - don't drink, avoid caffeine and sugar. Lots of fresh food, fruit and vegetables.

4) Stick to a sleep pattern. Go to bed at the same time each night and get up at the same time - even if you don't sleep at all in the night. Stick to 8 hours and don't sleep in.

5) Get outside for an hour a day - walk in the fresh air and clear your head.

6) Socialise - keep in touch with friends and family. Get out and meet people.

7) Set goals. Set realistic, achievable and positive goals. This are personal - I set goals such a doing a course, joining an exercise class, sticking to my diet etc.

8) Give yourself a break - you aren't going to get better overnight, you are allowed slip ups. Remember that no one judges you as harshly as you judge yourself.

9) Talk to your doctor - ask what help is available and take it! Talking therapies help a lot of people, and CBT or counselling or something similar may help you. Medication is an option, but remember that it is your body - you can decide what goes in.

10) Talk to people who understand - it can be isolating feeling like you are the only person in the world with this awful illness. Talk to people who understand that some days it is too hard to get dress and who understand the reason why you stand in the supermarket crying over which tuna. It is liberating to know that other people are in the same boat - share tips on how to keep positive.


There are lots of links to sites that can help people who self harm at Support Line, see:
http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/selfinjury.php

Please don't give up - there is a life after self injury - you can beat this. I've not cut in 4 years now - it can be done.

Hope some of this helps xxx

Answer 2

do you have any hobbies or interests? No. i'm serious. they always make me feel better. Pets are the greatest sources of affection. People sometimes suck, but animals most often wont let you down.
Think about it, some people have it a lot worse than you. take a look around and recognize the good things in life and learn to appreciate them. If you focus on all the negativity in this world you could literally drive yourself mad. because there is that much. Go outside and take a look around you. the world can be quite beautiful some times. Walk the dog. Go bowling. rent a comedy.. lighten up and laugh a little or maybe a lot. And leave self mutilation alone. seriously.

Answer 3

In my opinion, councellors are a waste of time. Most of them are text book, never having experienced these emotions for themselves. They are a waste of bloody time.
There is a reason for you feeling this way. If you have the money then the best councellors to see are the ones you pay for privately. They are very harsh but VERY effective.
I understand this peed off feeling. Just can't get your chin up. Can't feel good about anything, look forward to anything or even be arsed getting out of bed each day.
It can be so painful. No one understands the way you think and feel and you're on your own. Been there hun and still am.
If you need to talk i can be contacted.

Answer 4

Please stop self mutilating. Please stop doing that. I hope that you have come to the realization that making it hurt and bleed on the outside, doesn't make the insides fell better. If your counselor is not giving you the advice and skills you need to feel better, please find another one. You have to bring to your top level of consciousness what it is that is putting you in so much despair. What ever it is, it CAN be remedied. Maybe it can't be made to go away, but SOMETHING can be done. Someone has got to help you be able to figuratively "step outside yourself" and look at what is going on. You know the saying "it's always easier to fix someone else's problem"? That's what a good councellor should help you do. Also, I hope that you have a friend that is a true confidant, one that you can totally be yourself with, and comfortably work through your issues with their support. Good luck to you, God's speed, and stop hurting yourself!

Answer 5

I do not know where you live but if it's at all possible, Get out of the house. Go outside. Find a place to just go and scream if you have to. Don't be afraid! just do it! That release will relieve much pressure. Afterwards, try really looking around and try to find the humor in all of the stupid things people do and say. People ordinarily are stupid. Try to enjoy watching their mistakes. It may take your mind off of whatever is bothering you and bring a smile. It works for me.

I really hope this helps. You'll be fine.

Answer 6

DONT YOU DARE do such a silly thing again , nothing is worth killing yourself over , no body and nothing.
You just immagine all the people you would leave behind crying and wondering what happened and blaming themselves. You find a mate or family member or even a nice person on line and talk about it with them a trouble shared is a trouble halfed.You do count even though you think you dont.
Nothing is ever as bad as you think when you talk about it. You take care and look after yourself if you want to talk to me by all means you message me i will help if i can i promise.
xxx

Answer 7

Go out and find things that make you smile. I suffered depression years ago and I joined an evening class and met other like minded people. It is hard to make the effort but it is worth it. The things in life that make you sad and unhappy try and avoid and surround yourself with people who can make you laugh.
Feel free to email me if you want to chat

Answer 8

i used to be the same,it really sucks! an i no how difficult it is when people ask what are those marks on ur wrist!!
there is no simple solution im affraid, you just need to get ur self a real good friend to confide in an talk to. a counsilor is a stranger!

Answer 9

Join a gym it will make you feel better about yourself cannot join a gym go for a long walk and breath and hey smile your the best!!

Answer 10

i went through this last year i did not want to go on but please don't give up i came out of it i dont no how it just happened things change every day and so will your life give your self a chance a councillor is good but only you from the inside can change how you fell trust me it will get better