how can i boost my self-esteem?

Answer 1

Increase feelings of social acceptance, competence and autonomy by doing things that make you feel this way.

Then quit worrying about it. You can't gain self-esteem by focusing on building your self-esteem--you have to build it indirectly.

Answer 2

Tap into your self-talk. We are literally talking to ourselves all the time - did I spell that right? does this sound okay? am I making sense?

But sometimes, especially in people with low - self esteem those messages would be - I bet I didn't spell that right. I'm a terrible speller. I'm so stupid. I can't say anything that will help. I sound like an idiot...

There's just a stream of thought that is ALWAYS running - even as we sleep. It gives us messages so that we can self-correct and so that we feel pretty good about ourselves.

So, tap into what you are thinking. A good time to do this is morning or bedtime when you have a few minutes to just lay there and observe your thoughts.

This can take time and often it won't come to you right away. You'll suddenly be aware that a week ago when you said something in class you verbally bashed yourself. It's okay to go back and correct that and say, "I had a question and it's okay to ask. I got what I needed and it's time to move on. It was actually really brave to speak up."

Whenever a negative one comes up, turn it into a positive - or at the very least a neutral.

Answer 3

Make a list of things that you have done that you are proud of yourself for. Put down things that you have done that you didn't think you could. If you were the first in your family to go to college, or the first to move out on your own, the first to move away and attempt to make it on your own. Sometimes we rely too much on others to tell us how to measure our self-worth. Self-worth belongs to the self, your self. Keep yourself organized, do not allow clutter in your home, put your things away straightaway, don't leave dishes in the sink, don't procrastinate. Those are simple things, and hard to maintain for some people. If you can make that part of your everyday routine, or habits if you will, those will contribute to more points on your self-esteem score board. Not many people can keep their proverbial sh*t together. And that, my friend, is definately something to be proud of. You'll be envied, and if that doesn't boost your self-esteem, I'm gonna kick your butt : )P

Answer 4

Realise that there is no such thing as failure.

No matter what you do in life, you achieve something. It may not be what you set out to achieve, but it is an achievement nevertheless.
Even -not- being good at something is in and of itself being good at something else.

Life is about the experience.... whether it is good or bad... whether "fortune" or "misfortune".... If you only put aside your pre-fabricated notions of favour and disfavour... of good and bad.... and simply appreciate the stimulus itself in its raw form..... then it doesn't matter where life takes you, you will always be able to go along with it knowing that you will do well.

(Or to put it another way: deny all consequence, notions of meaning and purpose... accept that existence is worth no more than you grant it.... and you will realise your central importance in your own private existence.)

Answer 5

Identify a hobby or new skill you will like to acquire and work real hard at learning it. Practice over and over until you get good at it. Keep telling yourself positive things about yourself, too.

Answer 6

Take small steps, stay away from the big ones.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

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