i have a friend hu is pregnant at the age of 15.. shes only told me and i dint no wat to do because i swore i would tell no one how can i give her sence to tell her parents?
2007-03-28 03:29:04 · 26 answers · asked by c b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh dear, bet you don't know where to turn. Try and talk her round, tell her that her parents will know eventually and that she is best telling them early on. If she is certain that she can't tell them would she talk to someone at school or a doctor ?? This isn't something that she can hide and she does need help.
Good luck hon
2007-03-28 03:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by cavviecath 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to except her as she is right now. Help her feel loved because if she feels like a bad person she won't tell anyone. Make sure you have her trust. Ask her how she feels about it all. Is she scared? Comfort her. Don't condone what she did but be an example of love in her life. She is probably scared to death and is afraid that everyone will hate her. Pose the question to her and if she is still hesitant, offer to be there when she tells them. Also if you know her parents judge on how they will take the news. If you aren't sure maybe pose the question of telling another relative. And if nothing else seems to work. Go to a good church and ask for help.
2007-03-28 10:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Leah J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she REALLY doesn't think she can handle a baby she should talk to the babys father and see what he wants to do. She has the last say so though. BUT he should pay for the abortion IF she gets one. Or if they decide to they can give it up for adoption....she has to really think about how both will effect her life first before she makes any decisions...BUT I do not think an abortion should be done after the second month of the pregnancy. I really can't see one at all but things happen so I guess one is ok..but she should NEVER get pregnant again until she is married for 5 years and is in a good happy relationship.....tell her there is TONS of FREE birth control out there............why should a baby pay for her mistakes....she needs to grow up!
2007-03-28 10:35:17 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard when someone tells you something and they ask you to keep it a secret especially when its something as difficult as this I dont know what this girls parents are like but if it was me who is a parent of a 15 year old i would want to know so i could give her all the support she needed at this time try and convince her that her parents would want to know the sooner she tells them the quicker she will be at peace.Parents are worse if they find out from another source. and will be hard on her obviously they are going to be shocked but will get over it and look at the situation sensibly.They will be glad she told them and trusted them to help instead of people outwith the family. good luck let us know how you get on if you need any more help just e-mail me. xx
2007-03-28 10:41:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my step-daughter was 14, when she told me she was pregnant, at first she didn't want me to tell her mum or dad, but i just made her see that she could not keep it a secret from them forever, and i explained that it would be much easier for them to get used to the idea if she told them earlier rather than them finding out and not being able to do anything about it. mum & dad were very upset and angry when we eventually told them, but within days they were calm, and were there for her throughout the pregnancy and now (baby is now 18 months). explain to your friend that things will be very difficult for the first few days after telling her parents, but tell her she is going to need them for support.
i also wanted to respond to an answer above. my stepdaughter went back to school after having the baby, she left it a little too late to study for her GCSE's so didn't do too well, but she has managed to get on a college course & is doing really well on the course. life is certainly not over as a schoolgirl mum, life can continue so long as you have the support of your parents to help with childcare while you continue with your education.
2007-03-28 11:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by shelley h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very hard but she needs to know that she should be able to trust her parents. I'm sure they will be they for her and help her out. So the next time you see her tell her not to be so scared and when she does it try to tell her parents be there when it happens. Because friends are always there when there friends need help. Like I said her parents will be shocked but dont let her hide it.
2007-03-28 10:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Peter W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck. I feel bad for the position you are in. However, you have agreed to be a trustworthy friend. Do not lose that trust. You might want to suggest your friend seek assistance from an adult. This situation is beyond your years. An adult choice may be found in church, school, friends parent, or the like. Assist your friend by suggesting trusted adults and encourage her to go to one for guidance. Ideally her parents are the way to go, but fear of their reaction prevents that for now.
2007-03-28 11:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has a lot to deal with. She needs to tell her parents first and right away, but she should tell her boyfriend too. Yes, they are going to be shocked and possibly mad, but they will get over it. They will help her make responsible decisions. She has two lives to think about. If she keeps the baby, she is going to have to think about this life for the rest of her life. If she gives the baby up, both her and the baby will wonder about each other throughout their lives. If she has an abortion, she is going to have remorse throughout her life. How is she going to go to school and care for a baby? If she doesn't go back to school, how is she going to support the baby? She has a lot of growing up to do...
For those who are thinking about becoming sexually active, are you ready to deal with this girl's jump into responsibility? Are you ready to deal with an abortion? Are you ready to deal with a STD? Are you willing to find out he or she was with you for sex only? Are you ready to give up your dreams? These are only a few questions you will have to answer when you become sexually active.
2007-03-28 11:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is drag her to the doctors they wont tell her parents but she needs to know she and her baby are OK, also tell an adult you trust because they can give you some advice. don't tell her parents because she needs your support and will be angry at u for betraying her. try and talk her into telling her parents because she wont be able to hide it forever. i know she has put a huge burden onto you but at the end of the day it is her choice just be there to comfort and support her. good luck to you both
2007-03-28 14:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by amy120705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her that she needs to go into the doctor for a check up. Tell her that it would be easier to go to the doctor with someone thats really close so they can understand whats going on too and that she needs to tell her parents to keep her and the baby's health in good shape.
2007-03-28 10:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by b.random4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋