Why am I so lonely?

Question

Well I havent' had a boyfriend in 2 years and I know that Im so young but I cant seem to find someone I like. Maybe I'm putting my standards to high. I like all different types of people so I dont know? Maybe its because Im supposed to be alone now in this point in my life? But i every time I do get a date the guy usually stands me up..hmm i wonder whats wrong with me..well maybe there is nothing wong with me....because sometimes i like being single...but most of the time i wish that i would just meet my perfect match!!! im confused! Help ME please....

Answer 1

Being stood up by guys? Maybe you need to move out of Jerkland.

Don't worry about having standards too high. Concentrate on enjoying what you like. It doesn't seem like there's anything wrong with you. No one's perfect, but no one has to be.

Answer 2

maybe your standards are too high. I suggest you take a step back and look at the kind of guys that you are setting yourself up with. Find the common link between them and then try to find someone completely opposite. We have to be open to different kinds of people because we never know what will be good for us in the end. I hope I helped even a little.

Answer 3

Have you heard of the saying that when you aren't looking then you find that special someone?

Well its definetely true... at least in my case

BUT....

I hope you take this as a piece of advice and not criticism.

When I was reading your question you seemed to be going back and forth on how you feel about yourself...being single and feeling good about it or needing someone. This could be one of the reasons why you haven't found someone. You could be sending the wrong signals or mixed signals to someone.

Also something does go wrong from the time you get the date to the actual date so find out what you are doing or SAYING to this person at that time to turn him off.

Hope that helped

Answer 4

I think you should not be too critical or lacking in confidence about yourself. It is natural to want to find your perfect match. Who knows why you have had bad experiences with the guys who have asked you out? One thing you might want to consider is meeting some guys in different environments. For example, there might be a group going on hikes in your area that you could join (say meetup.com or sierra club or something). Or you could volunteer somewhere and meet people there. Meeting good people is everyone's problem, not only yours. In the meantime, try to be happy and confident in yourself. Life is good to live even during the temporary time that you are alone.

Answer 5

I think you are looking too hard, if you know what i mean....everything comes at the right time and not before, also think about the way you come across to others, is it positive, negative, do you seem unapproachable.... all these things you should look at and you are only young you have years ahead of you try just to have fun, and relax.... every thing will eventually fall into place good luck.

Answer 6

HEY WUTS UP WELL i KNOW EXACTLY HOW U FEEL!! i HAVE BEEN SiNGLE FOR A WHiLE AS WELL!! LiKE EVERYTiME U TALK TO A GUY U THiNK OMG i THiNK HE iS THE ONE, BUT THEN HE TURNS OUT TO BE AN A**..ANYWAYS WELL i KNOW THiS SOUNDS KiNDA CORNY BUT U WiLL MEET A GUY, AND HE'LL END UP BEiN THE ONE WiT OUT U EVEN NOTiCiN JUSS TAKE iT ONE DAY AT A TiME ENJOY UR SiNGLE LIFE WHiLE UR YOUNG! U DONT WANNA BE TiED DOWN YET ENJOY N UR GUY WiLL COME TO YOU.

Answer 7

I suggest that you use your interests (hobbies, church, social groups, etc.) to meet males with similar interests. I too had and still have high standards but as a volunteer, I met and married my wife. Had our first date in January and got married that August. Will be 22 years this year. It worked for me! Try it.

Answer 8

don know
is this a open casting call for all 99,999 onliners here
reality check, u r away from family n friends n dating does not make u whole. insightful i hope

Answer 9

why is this question in the university section?