my boyfriend loves me alot. he says that I'm the girl of his dreams. he says that he wants to marry me but I really don't feel the same way. I have plans for after high school and they don't include him. how should I tell him without hurting him. especially after he gave me a promise ring. what should I do?
P.S. he is overly sensitive, he cries when we break up, and threatens to leave his house and town forever, and cries for enverything.
2007-03-28 03:26:34 · 13 answers · asked by ANA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
BE the mature one...and be honest and tell him how you feel in a nice way...if he wants to act like a baby and cry and threaten let him....you are smart NOT to marry or go with this guy!!
2007-03-28 03:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While sensitive is good, too sensitive can be a bit annoying. It seems to me that if you were to stay with him and lasted a very long time, and something happened and you broke up, things could turn out ugly. If you break up now off and on, and he threatens to leave town and stuff, then, how is he going to be in a long term relationship? Something to think about there.
I think you should just sit down with him and tell him you really need to talk to him about something important. Tell him what your plans are for after high school, and how marriage isn't something you're considering about at the moment, and probably won't be for a very long time. If you actually care about him, tell him that so that it doesn't sound like you're making an excuse not to be with him, but make sure you sound sincear.
I really wish you the best of luck, both with this situation, and with your after high school plans.
2007-03-28 03:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by crazygirl19_01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your still in High school, you guys shouldn't be thinking of marriage, and a promise ring is not reality. You must tell him how you feel cause you have to put your self first at all times. If your future plans do not include him then you have to let him go before you put yourself in a situation that you cant handle. The truth hurts and you cant control that, and FYI, crying for everything is a turnoff. He cant really be serious about marriage if he cant even have a simple conversation without getting so emotional!
2007-03-28 03:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by imari104012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be honest with him and be considerate of his feelings.
You are young, so I think if you feel the need to enter the real world after highschool without a relationship, it is probably for the best.
You can only control how you handle the situation, not how he will. Do not feel responsible for his actions after your breakup. Though I'm sure you care about him and are concerned for his well being, he's a big boy, he'll have to get through it.
2007-03-28 03:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by afwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...you are waaay too young to be in sucha serious relationship, believe me I mad that mistake when I was in high school & its somethign I COMPLETELY regretted. Ask him to dinner or tell him you want to sit & have a serious conversation with him. Let him know that you love & care about him a lot, but that you have a lot of plans and you don't feel like a relationship this serious is something that YOU want right now. If he cries & throws a fit, just explain to him that your mind is made up & that you are sorry that he feels bad, but that you will not chnage your mind. You have to live your life for you & not worry so much about his feelings. It sounds cold, but if you spend all your time worrying about someone else's feeling, yours will go on the back burner. Tell him that both you & he are too young for marriage talk, and that you both need to experience life out of high school before even thinking like that...cuz believe me, it is truly a different world. Let him know that one day if you guys go out & live your lives & meet back up and decide that you are meant to be, then you can think about it. But that right now you just need to look out for you & you are not ready for that level of committment.
2007-03-28 03:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jen J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do whats best for your future it is probally best if hes not in it. If you are just getting out of High School there will be so me oppurtunities for you. If I had the chance to do it over I would have went off to college,but I thought I was in love and got pregnant and that put a halt on all my dreams
2007-03-28 03:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you have to do for yourself...maybe he will toughen up in the process.
Just tell him that you have plans of going to college and dedicating yourself to that and you wont have time for a boyfriend. There are clubs you are going to join, studying is going to take up most of your time and that you think its best he find someone that can give him what he needs.
2007-03-28 03:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he truly loves you as much as he says, he would be willing to wait until after highschool and until you have met some of your goals before getting married.
2007-03-28 03:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound like a complete *****, but you have to do whats gonna make you happy. Yeah he'll cry but he will get over it. Just tell him straight up.
2007-03-28 03:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by fabulous_girl83 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's a pussy...do you wanna spend the rest of your life changing his diapers and drying his tears...girl keep your plans for after high school and tell him to man up!!
2007-03-28 03:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋