What should i do about this?

Question

I am gay and I liked this bo who wasnt gay. I told a friend who "told" people and then he found out about it. When he first found out he was nice to me and i told him that i wouldnt keep on liking him and he was really nice and said it was ok and he didnt like me like that but we could still be friends. This was at christmas time. BUT now, hes been obbsessing over it and says i keep lookin at him and hes makin fun of me for it and sayin to his friends oh watch hes gonna stare at me today the whole time and stuff like that, other friends are tellin me about it, they are sayin hes gettin annoyin and been really dumb about it latley.. most people wernt even mean to me when they heard i liked him but now i dont and hes obssessin about it, so why would he after 3 months do all this. i havent even really talked to him that much since it happened so idk why he would do this, is there anything i can do to get him to stop (talkin dosent work i tried)

i am 16 and in 11th grade and hes in 10th and hes 15

Answer 1

First question I would have is how old he is. He sounds on the immature side and like he is craving attention from people at your expense. It's also possible he may want something to happen just to try it. Ignore him the best you can, and do not talk to anybody who goes along with his crap

Answer 2

I guess that is the classic example of outing yourself to the wrong person. Between your friend who told and the guy, you got a bad reaction. I wonder why he keeps making an issue out of it now because he is really drawing attention to himself rather than you. I think that occurs because he does not want others to think he is gay and shoves the attention towards you. Time will take care of the problem. I would avoid any confrontation with him as that will just escalate the issue and make your friends chose sides. I would treat him just the same as you always have and put the ball back in his court.

Answer 3

I've encountered this sort of phenomenon in life as well...straight guys who either notice that you check them out or hear about it, and then proceed to tease you in a passive-aggressive way. It's the same way a cocky guy would tease an ugly girl that likes him but he would never sleep with. It's just an ego thing for him, he hit a bad spot in life or something and now he's abusing you to make himself feel good. The best thing you can do is just not play into his crap, treat him like you're totally disinterested and view him as you would any other random guy. If you make it obvious that all his jerkery isn't affecting you he'll lose interest in the game and chill out again.

Answer 4

Firsty the boy is frightend of being associated with you, hes scared people will point fingers at him.
At the same time he may be troubled about his own sexuality, he is using you as ballast to prevent being known as a gay boy.
Hes 15 younger than you, his actions also show that he is weaker than you too.
Its a difficult time for you, just be strong Billy :)
Look around find a nice boy to date, when that happens you wont worry about this boy making fun of you.
This time in your life will reveal the real friends you have arround you. In return you must be a real friend to them too.
Take care & good luck David :)xxx

Answer 5

First, how old are you?

Second, it sounds like he's doing it for attention, like "I'm so hot, even men want me." He's making a big deal about it because in his mind it makes him cool. But really, you should just see that he's being a jerk and arrogant about the whole thing. And arrogant is usually not a quality most people find attractive.

It all sounds really "high school" to me. If people want to talk about it let them, they have nothing better to do. For you, I say find a new crush, one that isn't so self-centered and one that is gay.

Answer 6

He's probably still struggling with his own identity, as most boys your age are, and may find that he is attracted to you, or doesn't understand that your being attracted to him doesn't mean anything about his own sexuality, and doesn't know what to do about it, so he's acting out. He really needs someone to talk to who can help him sort out whatever's going on inside of him. If he's as obsessed over this as he seems, I'd tell your school counselor and have him/her discuss it with the boy's counselor.

I'm sorry you ran into this buzz-saw. It happens sometimes, and our society isn't yet prepared to handle situations like this, since it tends to be in denial over teenage sexuality and its implications and consequences.

Answer 7

This should work. Go to him in public (cafeteria works good) and say " I don't like you. I'm not staring at you. Stop wasting everyones time. If you want attention from a guy so badly go and find one who thinks you are worth it because I don't and this is the laxst time I'm going to talk to you". Then walk away and don't have anything to do with him ever again.

Answer 8

I am a bit confused - You liked the guy but when he outed you and remained nice to you, you decided not to keep on liking him?


Billy, I have a feeling your friend is in the closet and has to make fun of you because he is insecure with himself right now.

If he keeps making fun of you - just say - "sorry, you aren't my type".

If others make fun of you regarding him you can say as in above or "He found himself someone else".

Answer 9

you are like me, going for the immature people who turn around and stab you, then laugh about it. you are a wonderful person, please just don't let that person get to you, i am positive someone likes you and will give you the love and attention you deserve.

Answer 10

Punch him out. Clock him upside the head. SLug him a good one. He'll get the message lickedy split..