He throws himself down on the floor and then denies doing it. If looks could kill, I'd be dead. He is mean to his 4 year old brother. He's getting into trouble in school. It tends to always have something to do with throwing or flicking something. He's been in counseling and that didn't have any effect on him. He claims there's nothing bothering him. It's an everday thing. He's spent days at a time sitting in the laundry room staring at the wall with no TV, no Xbox, no going outside, no nothing. He thinks he has everyone fooled. He doesn't show this side of him until he's been around you for a while. Most people who first meet him think that we're making all of this up. I went through a divorce last summer, but this behavior has been going on for as long as I can remember. His dad let him get away with everything and he treats me like I'm his sister, not his mother. But his step-dad doesn't let him by with anything and I know my son likes him. We just don't know what to do. HELP!!!
2007-03-28 03:19:56 · 18 answers · asked by ~Jenn~ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like a good spanking would help first.
2007-03-28 03:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by amandafofanda66 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just remember that it is a game and you will always win. Dont play into it. Ignore the temper throwing, give him no response to things like that. They are negative and dont deserve a reaction. make it simple, these are the rules, this is how we ask for things etc. If he is rude then he does not get what he wants. make him wait for a bit. Then give him the option again. If he still refuses then oh well. I hope this helps. It can be hard at times, but you will all get through it. They have to be bad before they can be good. That is what my father told me about my kids. Atleast it gives me piece of mind. =)
2007-03-28 10:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for your son to not shut down on you completely, you need to try to find some common ground. Take him to a movie he wants to see, or an activity he likes. Show him you care about his interests. Then, when you have those times, talk, without being accusatory, about the issues with the relationship. He'll open up and be honest if he knows you won't get mad or he won't get into trouble. The other thing is, pick your battles carefully. On a day to day basis, you're going to have to let some things slide. Unless you want to be in a constant battle, only choose to deal with the most important issues. Let the little things drop.
2007-03-28 18:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Moon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son is 12 and when he get out of line he loses everything and I slave drive him on chores. I'm old school I'll get the belt across his behind until he gets the point. I'm not raising a kid who'll end up in the pen one day or on dope. His dad needs to be on the same page as you. Try counseling we do that as well since insurance pays for it and it helps. It's just those pre teen years.
2007-03-31 22:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by RoxanneZG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off let me say I have seen little tyrants like this. It's his way of getting attention. If he is the youngest child then that could be part of it. Second, his dad thought his behavior was acceptable. Like a boy I saw in Wal-mart one day screaming at his mom calling her all sorts of fowl names, being a adult male, and a minister i asked if i could be of help. The boy then told me to mind my F ing business. The mother apologized to me and I said no need it's not your fault. I offered to take the boy back to rest room which my mother did to me more then one time in my childhood for backtalking. Well this mother told me his dad thought it was cute for him to talk to her like that and that he was told women were carpets that should be walked on. I told her that her husband needed a good old fashioned butt kicking himself and gave her my card. I offered to loan her my belt to teach this boy some manners and this boy soon found out who was in charge. Children need to know who is in charge. Don't back down stand your ground and possibly tan his butt a few times he will learn to be more respectful and in his future will learn to treat a lady like a lady.
2007-03-28 17:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to take control of this little monster before he controls you more than what he does now. Grab him by the little hairs on the back of his neck and you'll have him where you want him so you can keep the uppeer hand.
2007-03-28 12:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about my son??? lol
I feel your pain...the thing that gets me is that he is ultra charming to everyone(except me)and is an honor student...but he truly believes he has the right to refuse rules,talk back(that last word!!!Uuuggh!)even to his father! He fears or respects no one in his own home...I'm at my wits end...just had to vent.
2007-03-28 11:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by mrs O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah, he is 11?? i am 13 and if i did anything like that to my mom (who is also divorced), i would be disowned. don't get me wrong, i love my mom SO much but she and I both know who the boss is at all times, even when we're acting like sisters (movies,shopping,etc.). really, i do not know parenting but my mom was always firm and blunt with me and i am no "wild child"
2007-03-28 17:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by ❤fabulousSARA❤ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry its just a phase in everyones life. . . .it'll pass very soon. . . . a few months at max. . . .but don't soften up. . . .that could cause him to continue doing it. . . .stay strict and keep him out of bad company. . . . it happens to everyone and there is nothing to worry about. . . .
2007-03-28 10:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Stellar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son sounds like my own. Please look up Oppositional Defiance Disorder, and try a different child physcologist. Please for the sake of your child. They can't control themselves when this happens and sometimes don't recall what they've done. Check into it. And it is NOT your fault! Good luck and keep us posted.
2007-03-31 22:19:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋