2007-03-28 03:10:17 · 37 answers · asked by Trisha S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u need to go 50:50. Trust ur instincts who's lying, ur friend or ur husband. Thats 50%. The other half is find out. speak to em. Ideally get both of em face to face. and then decide.
Another approach is ask ur friend to help you on this. tell her to be home when ur husband comes home and you hide in another room. the truth will be out. if ur friend tries to avoid, she's lyin. and if she's tellin the truth...ur husband will not be wasting too much time taking his clothes off.
2007-03-28 03:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is more credible the friend or husband? Would your friend lie, looking to break you up, was it a joke she took the wrong way, is she making more of this then it is. I would talk to her ask detailed questions where, when, what was being said, how did he do it (let her show you how he grabbed her)
The more she goes into it you will see if her story stays the same or changes. I would then ask him alone. This could be nothing or something. You need to do more investigating. Good Luck
2007-03-28 03:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trish, if you have a lot of hott friends haning around it is like waving red meat infront of a wild dog's face. My wife has many hott friends who like to dance and party, they are always at my house and occassionaly when we're all drunk, my hands are grabbing more asss than a new mother.
Whatever you do, do not follow the advise of these people of trying to get them both together to confront them, it will end badly, make things far worse and not settle a thing. This is really a very minor issue that should be handled between you and your husband. this isn't highschool, it's your marriage.
2007-03-28 03:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her that you can't be sure he is lying and she is telling the truth. In view of this you must cut off the relationship between yourselves. As in baseball "the tie goes to the runner". You must choose your husband over a friend without concrete evidence. She may be telling the truth. She may be trying to instigate problems in your marriage. You have no way of knowing for sure and to pursue that course will only bring you more problems. Cut her off. If it was true then she should have told him in clear terms to knock that crap off and kept it to herself all the while evading all situations that would provide him an opportunity. Instead she chose to make you doubt and distrust your spouse. What are you supposed to do? Divorce him? Her motives are not noble. Spend more time with your husband. If your husband is truly that dispicable then he will inevitably do something else.
A true friend can't expect you to go against your husband.
If she is telling the truth then you certainly can confront him but you must still cut off your friendship with her . However, you as a wife must do what is necessary to salvage your marriage. If your husband is innocent and you persist in doubting him and or accusing him and he hasn't done anything to merit the accusation then you will in effect be driving him to do that which you accuse. After all if he is going to suffer the punishment for something he hasn't done then he might as well do it and more.
The choice is yours.
2007-03-28 03:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ask him. But either way u r in a mess ,so if he didn't then your friend is not much of a friend gotta go but if he did then he is not a husband and gotta go. U need to be strong and think of the situation,and look at all the aspects of this situation and find out who is the most trusting and has your best interest at heart.
2007-03-28 03:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by lou lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her for specifics, like when it happened, what time, where were you, was anyone else around, (anything specific she can think of). Then think back to the time and place she's referring to and determine if what she's saying was possible. If it was possible, could it have been done jokingly? After you get some more information from your best friend you need to sit down and talk to your husband and get his side of it. Afterwards compare your notes and decide who is telling the truth. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-03-28 03:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about it in a clam, non threatening way. See how he responds to the question. One way or the other regardless of his answer, he will be more careful about his behavior and how it is interrupted by others. If he could care less about it, then its time to find a new husband.
2007-03-28 03:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a diet get liposuction,breast implants and a face lift anything to help make you more attractive than your friend. and tell your friend to quit coming on to your husband or the friendship is over.
2007-03-28 03:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them both together and ask your husband in front of her. If there is some thing to worry about on either side, you will find out right then and there.
2007-03-28 03:16:44 · answer #9 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should have a serious talk with her, get all the facts and details.
Then approach your husband, and ask his side of events.
Approach both with a neutral, unaggressive attitude.
Don't immediately take either side, wait until you have both sides of the story,then make your decision on what's best to do.
2007-03-28 03:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋