I have been having problems with my wife for some time now. We fight constantly and I found solace in the arms of a woman I work with. I just found out though that she is pregnant with my child and she is going to keep the baby. What should I do about my job, should I leave? And my wife has no idea yet. I know I am in trouble, so what should I do?
2007-03-28 03:05:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be a man! Sit down and tell your wife the whole story, and be prepared to suffer the consequences. As far as the other woman goes, get prepared to take care of your responsibilities with the child she is carrying.
2007-03-28 03:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is to tell your wife about this affair and that this woman is pregnant with your child because of it. Your wife will then have to choose to either stay married to you or divorce you for what you have done. You have to face the music and do the right thing now that you have done it with her. I suggest you let this other woman go and when the baby is born be a dad to that child that you need to be and if need be have a paternity test done to confirm things as well. Do not run from the child but you should run to your wife and make your marriage work. Also seek marriage counseling if your wife still wants the marriage and is willing to give it another shot. Basically you chose to have the affair and now you have to pay the consequences. You will need to be involved in the babies life no matter what and your wife should not want you to not be. You will also have to pay child support as well.
2007-03-28 03:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Problems", what are "problems"? Everybody has problems. What matters most is how you solve/handle them. How mature are you? Are you the sort of person who runs away from problems? Do you look for the easy way out? Are you afraid of bearing up to your responsibilities? How do you know that when challenges come up in this new relationship you won't run off into someone else's arms?
Honesty is the best policy all the way around. If it wasn't working and you have tried all possible ways then you should have let her know before - I know that that is water under the bridge - so let's move on. Step up to the plate and tell your wife. Be really apologetic (that means take all the blame) then ask for forgiveness. If she asks why tell her the truth. But before you do all of that you need to look in your heart and choose your hearts desire. Who do you want? Then stick to it.
2007-03-28 04:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by ayobisiosuntusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand the point of cheating, I find it disgusting. If you were not happy with your wife why did'nt you just leave her. It would have hurt her less, now she has to find out that you have not only been sleeping with a woman, she is having your baby. I am sorry but I do not feel one bit sorry for you, you made your bed now you have to lay in it. It is time to step up and be a man, own up to everything, quit trying to hide it.
2007-03-28 03:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Misty M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your wife the truth - see how she reacts and take it from there.
2007-03-28 03:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like you give me a headache.
2007-03-28 03:21:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋