The thought of living really scares me a bit. I'm sixteen. Of course I want to live , but since I'm probably going to do it for a lot of years - maybe- waking up in a skin every morning that won't last forever and almost be forced to do things - it makes me kind of crazy. My surrounding won't last forever and I'm afraid to be seperated from the people I love. I can't rest in my own mind, my own body since I know it won't be my " home of forever" . I'm not afraid of death, I'm afraid of the existence. I can't neither find a reason to be happy or sad, since it deeply doesnt really have a meaning for me. It has, but it won't matter when life's gone. I try to tell myself that there is a difference " thought of living" and to actually "live". Well, but it doesnt work anymore. I have got this unbearable thought on my mind deeply almost every second now for a week, and I try to forget it since I once could, How can I ?
2007-03-28 03:02:27 · 9 answers · asked by x•°meadow°•-|- 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am sorry to hear you feel that way. I have felt that way before and often feel uneasy but not all the time. I think you might benefit talking to a councillor about it. Find one that suits you- if you speak to one and don't feel comfortable find one that you do feel comfortable with. Apart from that though, music and art has helped me- especially painting. I guess it depends on what things you might enjoy doing or appreciate. It sounds like maybe you are spiritually confused (sorry if I am incorrect). A suggestion is to maybe go and talk to your local chaplaincy or any group you feel you might wish to share your thoughts with. I have found someone very helpful at my university chaplaincy and we speak about life and creation. I think it is important that you find someone who is objective and honest- there are lots of them out there :)
You can do this, you don't have to fix everything in one day- take things one step at a time. There are lots of people who have similar feelings and lots of people who can help.
Also I have a suggestion, for your next meal, eat your favourite thing... don't watch tv or anything like that when you eat it, just take your time and think about how the food tastes and what the texture is like and what it is doing for your body. Or just go for a walk to a park and stop and hear what sounds there are. That is something that works for me- it is simple and it is in the moment :)
2007-03-28 03:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are going through a normal time in your life where you have these feelings and questions. Life is wonderful, hard, exciting, scary and definitely an adventure. Our bodies are what our souls and our spirits live in. Yes, one day our bodies will give out and cease to exist but our souls go on. Live each day to the fullest and fill your mind with the wonder of what surrounds you, the beauty of nature and the miracle of life itself. Make every day a learning experience and enjoy the little things that make you happy. Instead of concentrating on how long it will last or when it will be over, put your energy into living. Remember what you put into life is what you will get back out of it. Start living and enjoy being young while you can.
2007-03-28 10:39:33 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every young person has this fear. Some more than others. And you know something? It's grounded in reality. Life IS challenging. Everything worthwhile you'll ever want will be difficult...nothing will come easy. But somehow, though your own personal qualities and capabilities, you'll pull through every day. But at a young age, it all seems overwhelming.
What you need to do is set the fear aside for a period, and refocus yourself on what will get you through...your knowledge, your skills, your experience, your family and friends, your dream, your goals, your plans, and your inner strength. You have a lot of this, and the main purpose of youth is to get more. I recommend you stay focused on the task of working on being your best self. Work on making some of the above a little bit stronger each day.
Then check back from time to time to see how you feel about life. You just need your confidence in yourself to build while you prepare for your life ahead. You'll be fine, I guarantee it.
2007-03-28 10:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being at home with people you love is great. When you are ready to move out, you know what? You'll simply expand that circle. You'll still have the support of your family, but you'll be making really great friends and you'll have more freedom to make your own choices.
It actually just gets better! If you head off to college that's sort of a cushion between home and "life" so to speak. It's a smaller version of the world - it's own little micro-cosm. And it's a BLAST!
There will be ups and downs to be sure, but the world isn't nearly as scary or horrible as what you see on the news. They really have to scour the earth to come up with 30 minutes of bad news. If they were going to cover the good stuff, it'd be on 24/7.
Instead of feeling dread, think of what you WANT to do. What do you really enjoy or think you'd enjoy that you want to try out? Pottery, skiing, mountain climbing, cooking, travelling, there is endless variety on the planet and it's all here for you to try out when/if you want to.
And you're not going to be forced to do things you don't want to do. I mean, unless you dread cleaning the toilet and you can hire someone to do that for you! : ) You can work in a job you love (instead of having to take classes you feel are meaningless), find people you adore and who adore you to hang out with, enjoy hobbies you can hardly wait to get to...it's all good!
I understand it's scary to think about going out into the world, but take it one day at a time and know that you're not alone. There is SO much support for folks just starting out - your family, friends, new friends, college counselors, books, etc.
In terms of being stuck on a certain thought, that happens. Try not to worry about it and when you think it, think of something else that is fun or enjoyable or positive.
And if you feel really stuck, maybe you can speak with a counselor who can help you out. Cognitive-behavioral therapists help people who are dealing with that unbearable thought stuff.
2007-03-28 11:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people are scared at various times throughout life. it is overwhelming. Sounds like you are a thinking, intelligent person. If you get too anxious, seek out a counselor. But try experiencing life a little at a time.
2007-03-28 10:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by kathy s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young to worry about these things enjoy your youth and live your life! there are plenty of other things in your life later on to worry about if you cannot get results then maybe you can talk to a counselor and find out what is the root of your worries. I am 30 years older than you, and believe me you should not waste your time worrying.
2007-03-28 10:15:29 · answer #6 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems pretty normal. You are anxious because you are 16. This is the age for wonders, would I get married? would I be pretty? would I fit? I understand it. Eventually, you will find your own way, not because someone is forcing you to do things or telling you what to do, but because you will figure it out. Good luck and God bless u.
2007-03-28 10:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by candywhiteandrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So growing Pains,.......that,s ok. you will get use to it, just learn to take life one day at a time, everything will work out just fine.
2007-03-28 10:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by ThomasL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn girl, im a guy and this is just making me so damn depressed im about to cry if i read this again
2007-03-28 10:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋