We are a large family and find it hard to get everyone together for events.
One of my daughters has planned a birthday party for her two year old with the "Cars" theme. She has ordered all the goodies.
OK, I have another daughter who has a son that will be turning 15 one day after the two year old. The mother of this child called the mother of the two year old and asked would it be alright if she brought a birthday cake for the fifteen year old and the gift from her and his dad to recognize his birthday too.
Well, mom of the 2 year old totally flipped out and said it was her sons party, she planned it, and wanted only him to be in the "spotlight"
In my opinion, I say what difference does it make. We recognize all birthdays in this family, and that will only keep us from going to another birthday one day later, or the next weekend.
The whole family is in chaios over this and feels badly toward the mom of the 15 year old and says it is a scheme to get him presents, etc. etc.
Help!
2007-03-28 02:53:39 · 10 answers · asked by Shari S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How is it a scheme to get him presents when it really is his birthday? And while I am sure it is a wonderful thing for everyone to celebrate the 2 year olds birthday, they are only 2 and really wont remember much or even understand it all. The 2 year olds will probably be all corraled in one spot to enjoy themselves while the adults will probably be spread out and involved in their own adult conversations as far as most kiddie parties go. I dont see why the 15 year old who just wants to see his family and blow out his candles cant share a space on the other side of the house or something so that he can get shown some love too. He is 15, he will remember everything including how his family is arguing over a simple party and at 15 theres a lot less times left for him to be this close to his family since soon he will be 18 and off to start his own life with his friends and college and such. I think he deserves his 15 minutes of fame---the kids wont mind they probably wont even notice, why should the parents?
2007-03-28 03:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two different mothers correct? Well sorry to say but though the birthdays are on different days she can keep it seperate. However a two year old doesnt really need a big party. If you talk to the other mother and let her do the cake and what not for her son and ask to combine a cake of your own for the 2 year old maybe you two can come to a compromise.
2007-03-28 10:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`ll bet this is the 2 year old moms only child. After awhile you tend to be a little more flexible. To bad she can`t understand that a huge fuss would be made over the toddler either way. There`s noway she will ever understand it and would be miserable the entire day.
I have 4 year old twins and do their parties together for now. School age I will do seperate parties I am sure because they are boy/girl.
I have a 15 year old,she`s just being a ^&*( ,why SHOULDN`T the 15 year old get a party & presents too? Her lil angel will grow and will be 15 one day . Yall be sure to remind her of that issue!
2007-03-28 10:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did the mother of the 15 year old offer to kick in any money to help cover the festivities? i have thrown many parties and they aren't cheap...i think the mother of the 15 year old might be trying to get off cheap. And why would a 15 year old want a 2 year old party anyway? Yeah, I see the two year olds mothers point of view on this one, sorry to say.
2007-03-28 09:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cinna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow take a step back and look at the situation.try and see both sides not just one. with that sort of age difference i would be reluctant to have a joint birthday party. perhaps the mum of the younger child is worried about older children around the younger ones.the mum of the younger one has had all the expence .the mum of the older child should make her own arrangements after all if you were 15 would you want to share your birthday party with a 2 year old.
2007-03-28 10:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by fushia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that each kid should have their own birthday party. It's their special day. I have two kids who's birthdays are less than a month a part and I had thought at one point to have both of them at the same time but then I thought that it wouldn't focus on just one at a time and they'd be sharing a day instead of making it special sepaparte. It has to be hard to do it twice in two days but they deserve a special day to themselves and I don't think in my opinion it's to get more presents out of people. I don't think of it that way.
2007-03-28 09:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As inconsiderate as the mother of the 2 year old is, it is her right to keep the parties separate if she wants to.
2007-03-28 09:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont combine the two birthdays...
and hasnt anyone asked the 15 year old for what he wants??
2007-03-28 10:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brothers b-days are sep. 9th an sep.11th an they have celebrated their b-days together on the same day many times sometimes thats what they perfer ask the kids hun good luck!!!!
2007-03-28 09:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by luv2hate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
combine them,why not
2007-03-28 10:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋