if your trying to talk to a friend of yours, but they dont respond back what should you do? is this a sign?

Question

i have this awesome friend. shes really nice and really means a lot to me. trouble is, latley we havent talked much and im trying to talk to her and stuff. but shes been unresponsive. i am afraid that this means there is a gap or something in our friendship and i have no idea how to deal with this because this hasnt happened to me at all. if she is being unresponsive, is that a sign that there is a gap between us or am i just overacting to something small (i hope its the latter...)?

Answer 1

Before you over reacted to this situation try to find out why. Is she busy , or just trying to avoid you? If you communicate thru cellphone, try to find out if she still has load/line or figure out if her cellphone was still intack and not stollen. Thru e-mail see to it she's on line. If she keeps on ignoring you, try to communicate to her personally, face to face. If she didn't face you, then there much be some real problem. When that time comes ask yourself is there anything that might happen in the past that changes everything. If you really are bothered after that action, try to ambush her in a place and situation wherein she has no escape or choice but talk to you. Then clarify everything. If she didn't want your friendship anymore, at least both of you can give it a smooth closure. It may hurt but sometimes letting go is the best thing, after all there are times that absence makes anyone realize how important a person was in her/his life , when you loose someone you feel sorry and may try to undo those harsh decision. It may happen to her, so, if that's the case don't loose hope. Good luck. Learn to speak more politely, open heartedly ,mostly like a good diplomat to avoid negative or misrepresentaion of your true motive.

Answer 2

Depends on how you communicate . By e-mail or one - on-one ? Tell her right out you find her silence unsettling and if she values your friendship to become more responsive . Unless her computer is on the fritz, and that does happen , I would say she found better things to do .
Believe me it has happened to most of us . They say if you fiend just one true friend in your entire lifetime you are lucky . I thought I had a friend too and she turned out to be a fair weather friend just recently . Also if it happens more than once with the same person, call it quits.
Good Luck .

Answer 3

I personally overreact when someone doesn't respond back. Granted I know people get busy (I do too) but I'm considerate enough when I'm not busy to get back to them and apologize to them that at the time I was busy. That's what makes me mad about the relationship I was in..... he would never respond back. It doesn't take too much time just to say hi, I'm busy. At least you know that they're not "ignoring" you.