How do I get past the one thing I have known for 4 years? How do I deal with having to move back in with my parents? How do I deal with the stigmas? How can I stop my pathetic crying?
2007-03-28 01:42:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married at 18 and seperated at 21. It hurts, but it does get better. Go out and do something just for you, that will help you feel better about yourself. Get together with your girlfriends and all of you agree that men are not to mentioned, that way you won't sit there and cry to them instead of have fun. Go out dancing, or something else that you enjoy. And every morning, when you get up, even if you don't feel like it, look in the mirror and smile and laugh. You are young, your adult life is just starting, don't worry about the past 4 years. Just take it as a life lesson and move on with your life. If you have to move back in with your parents, so what? I did too. They will be there to support you when times get rough. And it's not forever. do you have a job? start saving money while you are living with them so you can afford your own place. as for the stigmas. ignore them. don't worry about anything else besides making you happy and getting back on your feet. Don't worry about the crying, that's just a part of it. you'll see, after a while you will run out of tears. time does ease the pain. like i said, it does get better, but you have to take that first step. i wish you luck.
2007-03-28 01:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by robsgrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am so sorry that your husband did this you dont deserve this I dont think you ever get over it I think you learn to take one day at a time. I dont know if you can but the best thing to do is can you move into an apartment? and there are no stigmas because you need to lift your head high and realize life is not over and you are still breathing. Crying is not pathetic I truly understand after four years my sister's husband left and it was tragic after 12 yrs she still cries but she has also moved on she gets up every morning and works and gives to others.
Do something for someone else if you think about there are people out hurting more then you be a blessing to someone and it will bless you Your in my prayers
2007-03-28 08:58:48 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
therapy would be a great start. Self help books helped me to over come my divorce. Divorce is like a death. There are no certain times to stop mourning. Remember you are a great person that has ambition and inspirations and grab ahold of those and move on. moving back in with the parents would be difficult for me to do but you need to do what you have to right now. The stigmas are there regardless of how you handle this. Just breath deep and keep smiling. ok? As far as the crying, that will stop eventually. Right now you may need to cry, cry and cry some more. That is normal. I wish you luck and peace in your heart.
2007-03-28 09:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18 divorced at 23(he passed away a few months later). the best thing for you is to not worry about labels or stigmas. Just move on, if anyone asks just tell them you made a mistake when you were young and laugh about it. At least you are still young and dont know if you have kids or not, but look at it as a learning experience. Good luck
2007-03-28 09:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds, I know it sounds corny, but it's true. Don't stop crying just yet, wait until you are ready to move on, but give yourself some time to heal. To hell with the stigma, don't let anyone judge you, they could be where you are in the wink of an eye. The parents thing, yes that's tricky, try to understand it's probably just as difficult for your parents so try and be patient and as helpful as you possibly can be and get a job (if you don't have one) and a place of your own as soon as possible. Good luck
2007-03-28 08:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sas 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You either do or you don't. Its up to you. What stigmas, why move in with parents, pathetic crying is good, lets you really feel the emotional pain and hopefully get you off your *** so you can get it together. Good Luck
2007-03-28 08:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you upset? Do you want the divorce? Why do you have to move on? Have you thought about working on your marriage? Try looking at your other options. You married for a good reason, I hope. Heres a book that might help...... Or go to her web page.... God Bless!
2007-03-28 09:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by BryTheFishGuy.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the crying helps one to move past the hurt, and on to the next part of life, its necessary. moving back with parents isn't all that bad, theres no shame in it, its just what u are thinking about it. its your perception of it. it is normal to cry, don't stop those tears, they help us get through things, its good to express ones grief.
2007-03-28 08:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just do it. I know it sounds silly, but what choice do you have? Whatever happened - which you don't say - but given your previous questions it looks like he's had two affairs.
You just pick yourself up. If you must divorce, do it. Don't feel bad, just learn from your mistakes and realize that at 23 you are still very young and have your whole life ahead of you. Dwelling on the past is pointless. Learn from it, but don't dwell on it.
2007-03-28 08:53:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
THERAPY.
There is nothing bad about being divorced. I had to move back in with my parents and I'm 34, with a 12 year old daughter no less. It is called Life.
2007-03-28 08:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by dolphins_fanatic 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋