I am 20yo, but I have always been "mature for my age", or so people say. Several of my closest friends are more than 2 decades older than me, but I don't feel the age gap at all.
One such friend is a 45yo former teacher who has always been a great mentor and role model. We see each other twice or thrice a year, and email regulary (around twice a week).
Now, I've always had a huge crush on him, but I've never told him simply because I know it's inappropriate. On several occasions, he has told me that he "likes" me a lot, but that he respects me enough to keep distance.
Lately, he has been asking me to tell him how I really feel about him. Should I tell him I like him a lot, even though I have no intentions of being more than friends with him? Or should I leave things as they are and keep on pretending that I don't feel anything special for him?
His question is simply borne out of curiosity, and I'm sure he also has no intentions of taking anything to the next level.
2007-03-28 01:32:00 · 11 answers · asked by princess ariel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
maybe tell him something like... "I like you as the friend and mentor you have become to me and I will always cherish that in you; you are very special to me that way, thank you for always being there for me"
nothing about a crush and if he expresses hi feelings about you , just listen and maybe say "thats so kind of you, but you don't want to ruin a good friendship"; nothing more...
you are very wise and fortunate to have a friend and kept a friend such as this in your life I believe ...
I just wonder what you do talk about, thats all..
2007-03-28 01:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly have no intention or desire to see things progress in a more intimate manner, than just tell him you're not interested in him as anything more than a friend.
If you're trying to convince yourself you're not interested because you're afraid that he might not be interested then you're creating a problem for the both of you that will continue until you something changes.
Then there is the coy route. When he ask again, answer his question with a question. Something along the lines of "Would it change anything if I said I had a huge crush on you and wanted more?" or however you wish to word it. Of course do so in a playful manner as to have an a way out of an awkward situation if he says he'd never pursue anything with you.
2007-03-28 08:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is obviously some mutual attraction here, and that now you are older, he is sounding you out, possibly with a view to taking things further.
Just be careful not to ruin a great friendship if you do decide to take this to the next stage. And good luck. Age is just a number!
2007-03-28 08:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by catfish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always good but if he likes you and you like him and you tell him you likes him he is a man yes he will try to take it to the next level if you do not have any intentions of allowing the friendship to go deeper than it is do not tell him because you will spin a web for yourself he might play on the fact you like him and futher the relationship! They say they won't but they always do it in a sneaky way becareful!
2007-03-28 08:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him the truth. Something like that will always be barrier between you two. No matter that the intentions are, this unexplored emotion will be like an itch that if you don't scratch will always bug you.
It is better that you both feign ignorance of you don't intend to be serious, rather than have that in the middle of your friendship.
2007-03-28 08:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by stn1225 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that although he is your mentor and you love talking to him, you cannot see you two moving into any other direction than friendship.
2007-03-28 08:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is eager to know. then maybe u should tell him. but if u think that ur friendship with him shouldn weary then i think it's better u keep it to urself. well u r only 20. as time goes u'll understand maybe its just infatuation. its not really love. its only a crush
2007-03-28 08:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by viji_33_33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid to tell him exactly how you feel, including how inappropriate it is in your belief. Honesty is the best policy, remember white lies are lies, and we tell lies because we are afraid of hurting others feelings. Tell him and move on.
2007-03-28 08:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by pat k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can never know what future brings...
what a day brings, a year cannot bring...
you may be one step of true love...
maybe!
2007-03-28 08:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Suchness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS be honest!
And he will respect you for that and still be your friend.
2007-03-28 08:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋