Well, this is the story: My best friend is now ending her marriage (she was married for 10 yrs), she has a baby girl 4 years old. The thing is that now she seems to be dating just losers, and she is very depressed about it. I told her that she should take some time for herself, but she is so obstinated. How can I tell her that she is acting because she is still in pain without hurting her feelings? I know this is the last thing she wants to listen, but it is the truth.
2007-03-28 01:31:17 · 6 answers · asked by marylapana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give her time... Usually some people use to rush into a relationship to go over an old one, but I truly belive this only work like that in movies. Be supportive, at least, there is nothing you can do right now and try to be there for her, even when she tells you 10 times the same thing. Go out with her, try to do some activities that involves her daughter too, because that little one needs her mother now, and don't push too much or try her to convince her to think the way you do, eventually she would realize that she is making a mistake dating so many losers and she will heal the way she needs to. Be there for her and tell her to take care of herself. Good luck and God bless you for being such a good friend.
2007-03-28 02:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by candywhiteandrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just need to find this out for themselves.
She's jumping back into the fire too soon!! Like you said she needs to take time for herself. It takes two to make a marriage and it takes two to break it up. If she's smart she'll realize what she's doing on her own and you won't have to say anything. With a 4 yr. old daughter she needs to concentrate on raising her and forget about dating right now.
She needs to take care of herself and her daughter and figure out what went wrong in her relationship. The last thing she needs is another relationship right now. When you end a relationship it's like a death. You need time to get over it. You might try telling her that. Tell her you can help her get through it if she wants you to. Just stand by her and be there if she needs you. That's about all you can do.
2007-03-28 08:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by garden2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your friends needs is time for herself. After a break-up, especially a marriage, a person needs time to figure things out, to think, and to be able to actually feel again. Usually, every relationship right after, or after a break up is just, not the same, the person can't put feeling into it. As for telling your friend, some people are just hard headed as I am, and it's not very easy to stop dating because a person needs attention. Give her as much attention you can as a friend, go out somewhere. I know it helped me..
2007-03-28 08:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by RomeoXplicit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly she may have to go through some losers until she truly gets sick of it and realizes that you are right. After my first marriage I went on the "wild" side and dated a ton of losers, it wasn't until I started feeling like a loser, going through guy after guy that I took some time to myself. A lot of people tried to help me but I never listened either. Just give her all the support you can, and love your friend through this, she will come around.
Good Luck! And I wish her the best as well.
2007-03-28 08:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by michy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go around worring about hurting others feelings, you would probably never say anything critical. Your friend needs the approval of men or she feels like a nobody unless she has somebody. I think she needs to develope a relationship with herself first before she can have any kind of healthy relationship.
2007-03-28 08:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by pat k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep. its that whole needing affirmation thing. who cares if ur getting it from a loser...as long as ur getting it
2007-03-28 08:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋