I have tried everything I can possible think of. I know someone out there has to be going through the same thing and maybe they know a tactic that worked for them.
2007-03-28 01:25:22 · 12 answers · asked by Barbara 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
For everything the child doesn't do, don't do something for them. Use their excuses.
Example: "Mom, what's for dinner?" Answer: "I dunno. I must've forgot."
2007-03-28 02:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by trai 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I'd go for taking stuff away.
Discuss the rules with him/her and make sure they understand them and then explain that if they don't follow the rules their computer / games console / TV / mobile phone / phone privileges / pocket money / fancy trainers / bike / whatever will be taken away (for an appropriate amount of time) until the rules are followed.
I think at that age it's important to discuss the issues and not just weigh in there and starting doling out punishments. The kids is old enough to understand about consequences.
However, you may end up with a kid in an empty room who still doesn't follow the rules....
2007-03-28 09:47:03 · answer #2 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a little bribe, such as "break a rule then you will slowly lose 10 privledges".
Come up with a list of 10 priviledges that the child likes. List them in order of importance IE. No allowance, no tv, no phone, no internet, no car, grounded for 2 days, grounded for a week, next big event they are not allowed to go to, etc. As they break the rules, slowly increase the level they are being grounded.
In order to do this fairly, however, make sure that there is a list of obvious house rules posted right beside the consequences, as that way there is no dispute to whether or not they broke any rules.
2007-03-28 09:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by bpbjess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay so i'm 16 and i'm going to try and help you out. First off make sure your kid knows the rules. Second make sure you say them loud and clear so they've herd them. Third don't be surprised when ur kid doesn't listen, because garenteed that there bound to rebel a bit. Forth also don't be surprised when they freak out, it's normal. Fifth If they don't listen start taking away things that are important to them. Your kid is gunna get mad but it can only be expected. Eventually they will realize it's for there own good.
2007-03-29 19:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does the child value? Ipod? Computer time? Tv?
Make them earn those things, by following your rules. I.E. They don't get any computer time, until their chores are done. or they have to ask to use the computer, and if their attitude has been disrespectful, it's a no. Maybe tomorrow. Do they like to hang with friends? They can, when their room is clean, or the dishwasher is unloaded.
My teen once told me I was stupid. I decided I was too 'stupid' to do her laundry anymore. Now it's her job, permanently.
That's the way the world works. You can't treat someone like crap, then expect them to do your laundry, and get to do everything you want.
You're in charge. Pull the car, and make him/her earn it back. Stop taking them places, unless you are treated respectfully. Don't put up with it any longer, you are in control. You can make all the fun things go away if you need to. (and you may need to!)
Teens are smart, and will figure out pretty quickly what they need to do to get what they want. Make sure you're getting what you want, too.
2007-03-28 09:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Start when they are much much younger. If you are trying to teach dicipline to a 16 year old you have probably waited too long. In two years they will be out of the house. Just hang in there..
2007-03-28 08:30:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, my mom gives me an allowance for chores. But to follow house rules, she gets really strict with me, but if i follow, i get to have all of these kinds of privileges. If i dont follow, then if i ask to go to the movies, she says "no, remember what you did last time i asked you to do a favor for me?"
2007-03-28 09:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by supaflyredhead1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
take away their car.
say they can't hang out with so and so if they do not follow the rules. tell them no more allowence.
thats what worked for me.
but, be nice and reasonable.
2007-04-01 02:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by asparkinmyeye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on strike. Stop doing all the things you normally do for this child, make them look out for themselves for awhile and a change in attitude should take place. Most teenagers think they are grown, until you make them do grown up things. If this don't work, then take it to God in prayer and refer to the Bible. If you spare the rod you spoil the child, so "Beat the Hell out of them"
2007-03-28 08:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by deelicious 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
First she is not a child and treating her as one will just increase resistance from her. By not doing favors for her is the best bet, she has to learn cooperation is mutual.
2007-03-28 09:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋