We started off as friends, talking on the phone. I knew her for about 2 years, and both liked eachother. She always had a crush on me and I would act macho because we are both in a military program. Anywho, we talked for months. We shared the same interests and ideas, very alike. We stopped talking and then she had a boy friend a few months later. He cheated. Long story short, we went out after some time, and it went beautifuly. We fell for eachother. After 2 months, I neglected her by pushing her away. I started being rude, not caring, not giving her attention, and lost trust because she got drunk one night and lied to me scared I would break up.I was upset, but I neglected her. She cheated, kissed another guy drunk, broke up with me right after, couldn't look at me, nothing, we didn't speak for 2-3 months, and now we are talking again, says she realizes what she lost, no guy cared as I or was open enough to just be stupidly romantic & caring. Is there light in this darkness?
2007-03-28 01:07:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please don't get me wrong. I did not treat her like dirt. There came a point where she lied to me, and I lost trust. I didn't show her as much affection. But I did not treat her like dirt. This is when she kisses the other guy. No sex involved. The truth is I became someone else, as so did she, and that is because of this trust issue, that was actually quite small. But trust is very important to me. The relationship ship was not a phone thing, I couldn't give enough detail to explain, we were practically always together if not working, we spent thanksgiving together with her family, christmas and new years together. She was always at my house, and I would see her every day.
2007-03-28 01:54:01 · update #1
my guy cheated on me with my best friend "DRUNK" also..she doesnt deserve u move on
2007-03-28 01:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by minnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well possibly.
I think you need to ask yourself why did you push her away in the first place. Do you really like her? Were you scared that you were falling to fast and didn't want to let your gaurd down?
If that was the case and you are willing to be 100% open and honest and caring with her then yes.
She did make a mistake but she did only kiss a guy and she did the right thing by telling you right away and breaking up wtih you because she knew she did wrong.
When someone gets pushed away repeatedly when they like/love someone it makes you feel lonely and vulverable.
I think if you can get past what she did and you can get past this whole not letting her in thing you two will work out.
You seem to have a connnection and you have been friends for a while now.
2007-03-28 08:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by colie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you she should have left you and stayed away after you treated her like dirt!! The fact that she kissed another guy was probably a desperate attempt for some TLC. If she wants to get back with you, consider yourself very lucky and give it all you've got!! Why did you start treating her the way you did anyway? There might be some underlying issues that need attending. Good luck. I wish you both the best...
2007-03-28 08:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by Sas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't usually do this, but in this situation I have to come to the conclusion that she was looking for love and adoration that she wasn't getting from you, the person who should have been doting on her instead of being a jerk. However, I do NOT condone cheating in any way, and that includes kissing. Obviously she's realizing what she lost.............which was she must of liked someone rude in her life. Unless you plan on treating her like a princess, then don't go back with her. You both deserve better than that.
2007-03-28 08:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT doesnt sound like u guys were really in a relationship, so what does it matter if she slept with another guy? Had the 2 of u had sex yet? If she cheated its not your fault. My suggestion, move on and find someone u can have a relationship with that is not over the phone
2007-03-28 08:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by spacelee666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like when she kissed that other guy she felt really guilty. If she only kissed him and felt that guilty I don't think she would do it again. I think she loves you and if you love her you should give her another chance. Make sure you have talked through the past completely and truthfully before you make any decisions. Communication, honesty and trust are key to any relationship.
2007-03-28 08:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, I would say "yes". You have to trust her enough to show her that you love her ........don't be afraid of being a "*****"......That's what my husband says when he is faced with real down-to-earth feelings.......not too common when you're in the military to hide these feelings. But, a relationship can't be built without a good loving foundation.
2007-03-28 08:18:38 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does she figured you cared after you mentioned that u treated her like dirt?? You both need to walk away and start fresh.........with someone else!
2007-03-28 08:41:37 · answer #8 · answered by Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are at fault so you should give her another chance.
2007-03-28 08:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by YaYa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like it, but tread carefully.
2007-03-28 08:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋