My Friend is 44, has worked as a floor sander since he was 19.
He has had his own buisness floorsanding since he was about 25, and has been working very hard his whole life
he has always lifted the machines by himself.
recently his back has been terrible, he has been getting injections and is on high prescribed painkillers but he is still in alot of pain
the doctor said the pain will never get better.
he has bills to pay, and his house to pay off, so he continues to work as a floor sander, comes home in the afternoon in so much pain. it hurts so much to see him like this.
i have suggested a career change but he is very against the idea.
He will not rent his spare rooms out, he will not cut off his cable tv .
he lives alone..
he seems depressed,
he will not talk to a career councillor or anything.
He will not be able to do this for much longer, the pain is getting worse and worse.
What is th best thing to do for someone in this situation?
2007-03-28 01:07:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Sadly, there is nothing you can do for someone who won't help themselves. If he refuses to make any of the changes you have suggested, then his situation is all his own fault.
2007-03-28 01:11:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would he at least consider a co-worker, that way he would only be doing half of what he's doing now. But sadly, some people will not give up a life long business for anything.After all they've spent their whole lives building it and watching it grow.My grandfather did the same thing with his business,he always said he wouldn't stop because he didn't want to feel old or useless. He wanted to feel like he was accomplishing something right up to the end. So, if your friend refuses to stop or get help, although it's hard to watch, don't take it to hard. Good luck and safe wish's to you both!
2007-03-28 01:38:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are good to care about a friend, he needs either to hire a helper to do the lifting or get a partner and let the partner buy into his business, and or maybe sell the business and retire. If he sells the business he can get a job that won't hurt his back and still have enough money to live on. The hard part is he might have to swallow his pride and rent his extra rooms, or sell the house and move to an apartment or a condo, to reduce his costs. Hard decisions.
2007-03-28 01:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Friend is a proud man.
This is a very good thing.
Its very hard for a man like that to compromise.
Try and convince him that making allowances is NOT a compromise, that hes NOT getting old and that relaxing a bit doesn't make him any less of a man.
Good luck,and if the guy has any descent from near the Mediterranean,you can forget about it!
2007-03-28 01:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing is for sure.....if he goes on he will be in a situation where he can,t pay his bills any more and his house will be taken away from him to pay off the mortgage,he will lose everything.............needs to act now......can he build a small extension to his house and rent the rest of it to a family so at least he can survive and even do a lttle work when not feeling so much pain.....that,s what comes to mind here...the house would always be his and be getting paid off slowly........i am a roofer of 52 with still a large mortgage and knees starting to play up etc so i am already planning my escape,i,m proud too like this guy ...charge more work less
2007-03-28 01:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by foxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there someone he listens to ?
If you're the person, talk to him & convince him of the facts-that he could get bedridden for a long time.
Try out alternative therapy like yoga or some form of martial art which have exercises to strengthen the back.
2007-03-28 01:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by daffy duck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should show your friend this post, and all of OUR suggestions. It shows that you care enough about him to ask complete STRANGERS how to help him, because all of your other sources have run dry. Also, there might be some ideas proposed on here that may sound better coming from strangers than you. :) Go for it!
2007-03-28 01:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by Katrinket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think eventually he will have to change his career, even if he is reluctant now seems like he'll have no alternative in the future. That is so sad! He'll have to figure this out on his own, you can only give him support... Good luck xx.
2007-03-28 01:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Indeed, as others have mentioned, if he is unwilling to change, then there is nothing you can do. It sounds like either you, or someone else, has taken the time to make some suggestions based on your observations. Yet, if he is unwilling to heed any advice, then there is nothing you can do. He has to be willing to make the necessary changes himself.
2007-03-28 01:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Wee Bit Naughty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to hire someone to do all the hard work. He can still work just make someone do all the hard stuff. He is entitled to take it easy. And if worse comes to worse, he could eventually sell his business.
2007-03-28 01:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by summer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋