thing went wrong we fell out of love, we both love the kids, she got a bee in her bonnet about this guy telling her what she wants to here, she says she doesnt love him, but wants to see what happens, she throwing it all away without any thought for her family and children, i am prepared to wait but she says to me she doesnt want me to and says to me to go out and find someone, is this just a mid life crisis or is this for real.
2007-03-28 00:41:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First priority is the children. If she has left them and you for this other person she is either very selfish and uncaring or she is sick.
Whether she is sick or not - I would seek aid to keep the children protected.
Any mother who leaves her children once can do it again, psychologically it is possible that they will be better off with you - do look after them and love them well.
It will be the right time for you to choose another partner when you feel able, however you may be too tired if you are bringing up the children single handed - to get some help and support from the Health Visitor through your doctors surgery.
2007-03-28 00:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by Jewel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are hurting---------this has to be really rough for you-----not something I like to see happen to anyone.
This does sound to me more like a mid-life crisis kind of thing.. What are your ages? and how long were you together?
If you are capable of forgiveness then perhaps a reconciliation is a slim possibility.
You are free to find someone else in the mean time and it sure would help take the sting away-----you might even find you are even happier with someone else.
When we are young and in love we tend to overlook flaws that later begin to annoy. As we mature we grow and we learn and change-----sometimes in a relationship we discover that the 'stranger' we are married to just doesn't make us happy. Some people stay in the relationship anyway simply because they believe it is the right thing to do---and some people will not. Just from the little you have told us it looks like she is not happy with you anymore and has chosen to move on------you can do better than her------find your new romance----and Good Luck!
2007-03-28 00:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, this is definitely for real. Your wife fell deeply in love with another man, and has restructured you into a nostalgic mistake. You probably don't know the 'tip of the ice berg' at this point ... because she never told you anything was wrong and was smiling. Its cruel; she was smiling about him.
The best thing now is to just let the guy have her. Whatever you do, don't wait for her like some sort of lap dog. Once the glamor of the affair runs out, she'll find herself in a very miserable state. Get some counseling for you and the kids right away.
2007-03-28 03:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sultan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be either one. Just concentrate on taking care of the kids and making sure they have what they need. Try not to let the children know you are hurting. If you want to wait you can but if she is telling you to move on then maybe you should try. Your wife may just be having a mid life crisis but why do you need to suffer through it when she is not even considering you or the kids. Try to move forward. Good luck
2007-03-28 00:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though IND won two matches but still they are not qualifying for super eight in World Cup 2007. I think she will come back for the kids. The guy will get someone else wife and return yours. So don't be disheartened. Good Luck
2007-03-28 01:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by chulbula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could have a chemical imbalance in her brain. I'm serious. My sister once took all the money out of her family's account, the credit cards and flew to Florida. She stayed in a hotel, bought herself some nice clothes and just hung out for a while. She said she just felt like it. Turns out she had a chemical imbalance in her brain and now needs meds. When people do strange things like that, it seems that it should be checked out.
2007-03-28 00:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you (and i believe you do) really love her, im sure you would not be able to move on so quickly anyway so take some time out for yourself and learn how to live without her (sounds harsh)
in that time if she decides she has made a massive mistake then its all good, and if not you should already be on the path to getting on with your life
(ps i sympathise and at no point am i suggesting any of this will be easy)
2007-03-28 00:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by DEMON 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend first u said 'we both loved the kids' i think may be u love them but here not . she hade sale them and u with cheap
she rather seem a crazy woman or false mother and wife. so i tell u will not wait her to back again to u after had sale u and ur kids for a guy.in future if she get back may found ur second wife in ur home.god had known all we going to do before had created life so i advice u to looking for another woman . god w'll send it for u and trust with god who w'll give u a nice woman as a price for ur faithful.
2007-03-28 01:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by الرهيب 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing your wife it is impossible to say. You said that you "fell out of love" so I would assume it is real.
2007-03-28 00:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound's like your better off with out her..... Why should you wait, enjoy your life with your kids and be the best dad you can x
2007-03-28 00:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋