how do i heal a broken heart when the guy is so confused and one minute he says he loves me and now he needs weekend to think.i am in my 30's
2007-03-28 00:31:04 · 14 answers · asked by deepone36 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tough one! You didn't give much information, but based on what you said, I would give him the weekend. He may have been in a bad relationship and is afraid to put his heart on the line again, even if he cares a great deal for you! He may be scared! I don't think you have a broken heart...yet...I think that you are just afraid that you might lose this guy you care so much for. He may love you very much, but is not sure how he wants to proceed. Maybe things are moving too fast for him at this stage. You gave your age, but you didn't say how old HE was. Relationships are tough...love is tougher! Give him a little space...maybe even suggest that he take a week, and you don't see each other, so he can sort out his feelings. Let him know that you don't want to pressure him into being with you, but that you want him to WANT to be with you. If he can't do that, THEN you may have the broken heart and only time will heal that, I am afraid!
2007-03-28 00:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ken S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in love, you don't have to think about it. There's no question about it. Even if you have been hurt very badly in a previous relationship, that hurt will go away if you have found love again. You will find someone that will look you in the eyes and without saying anything, you will know they love you. You cant heal your heart trying to stay with someone that has to think about their feelings for you. You deserve better than that. And by letting him have the weekend to think about it, is going to drive you crazy. Your are going to put yourself through hell thinking about what he's thinking. Don't do that to yourself. At this point, your not going to be very secure about the relationship if he decides to stay with you. There is always going to be that question. And how many more weekends will he need to think about it down the road. If you let him do this now, you will be showing him that he can have allot more weekends to think "about it" while your sitting there waiting for him. And if "the weekend" turns out to have a name, think of how more devastating that would be. Don't put yourself through this. Your breaking your own heart if you do.
2007-03-28 01:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dark Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy clearly has feelings for you, but he also has issues with the relationship. Until you can find out exactly what they are, this relationship is not going to progress any further. You can try by cautiously asking him, but be careful not to put too much pressure on him, or it will drive him away.. If you cannot get any straight answers, assume the answer to the question is no. Sometimes guys will rather give no answers, or avoid the question, rather than answer it directly. If he has no interest in trying to make a go of the relationship, or at least work on fixing the problems, then you may have to cut your losses and find someone else. I wish you the best of luck, and hope it works out for you.....
2007-03-28 00:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Michael T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyya. Been there and it's very hard I know. You need to be strong and ask him straight out if he wants to be with you. It sounds like he is ending it in a cowardly way. Whatever it is he is doing is not healthy or fair to you. It will hurt for awhile but believe me, it will stop one day and you will find love again. Good luck!
2007-03-28 00:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jade AvA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me Like he is just playing games with you . The only way to cure your broken heart in this situation is to drop this guy permanently...... Give him all the time he needs!!! You can do soooo..much better.
2007-03-28 00:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by ....~K.C.~.... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on, there is absolutely no reason a woman in her 30's should be subjecting herself to childishness...i need time???!!! well he can have all the time he needs...by his self.... you are maturing and you need a piece of mind and stability in your life...usually when a man starts avoiding you it means there is someone or some thing occupying his mind/time...move on ...
it is the best thing you could do for yourself... it will hurt for a while, but when you find that someone who shows you that respect and love that you deserve, you will be happy that you dropped that fool.
2007-03-28 00:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by crookininbrooklyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
* Chocolate lots and lots of chocolate to heal a broken heart ? *
2007-03-28 00:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs a bit of counselling or his 'weekends away ' --- or both ! he's not worth the time of day --- sadly it doesn't do nothing for you --- regardless of age .
you'll need to move on love and find something a whole lot more commit ed --- sorry to spoil your day --but he's a jerk !!
good luck
2007-03-28 00:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what his answer is after his 'think', if it's not a good answer for you, sever all contact, then let time heal you.
2007-03-28 00:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋