neither of us can stand each other?

Question

we want a divorce because it was over long ago, just after our daughter was born that was 6 years ago. My wife has offered me 1 months rent and the deposit on a new place in exchange for our house, that we both own, i dont think that its fair. She asked my to sign a confession then she would go for a divorce, but i have't even done anything wrong.!!!! help

Answer 1

you need to speak to a solicitor pretty quick

Answer 2

Don't sign anything!!

1 months worth of rent and a security deposit. If that's all your relationship has cost you in the last 6+ years then sure, go for it. Yet since you have a mutual investment in to the house and more than likely other things it is within your best interest to hire a lawyer and go through a proper divorce proceeding.

The best idea is to sell the house, split the profits and the both of you find new housing. The rest of your possessions will have to be sorted out mutually or by the same method

Answer 3

Sorry to hear of your situation.

Obviously that is not enough...You have a 50:50 share of the matrimonial home if it is in joint names..

I know you don't want to make your daughter homeless...but I bet you don't want her to come and visit you in some crummy flat with one bedroom and she had to sleep on the sofa.

Therefore..I'd go to a lawyer.
The house could be sold and you split the money so that you both have enough for a good deposit on a new place.
If that sounds a bit extreme then you can have the house valued and you get half of that valuation.

It's up to your wife how she raises the money for your pay-off but the deeds of the house are transferred into her name and if she wants to re-mortgage to find the money then so be it.

My Friend is currently going through EXACTLY the same road as yourself and I do empathise with you as it has been a long, hard road for her.

She ended up leaving the home and renting privately. Her husband dragged his heels for a long, long time as he had the matrimonial house. The kids stayed with him as she didn't want to take them out of school and upset them even more.
But she has waited ages for her soon to be ex -husband to raise the money to give her as they didn't want the house sold...they both agreed the kids should have stability.

See a lawyer anyway...One that specialises in family law.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Wow she wants the house! I think personally whoever will have custody of the little precious girl should get the house because I know you must love your daughter and wants what is best for her it is not about you and your wife it is about the little one's future to grow up in a stable home I would say give her the house for your daughter not for her and if you can not stand eachother don't you think it would be better to leave than to stay before you guys destroy your little girl's life? She do not need to hear the bickering or feel the tension between her parents she loves both her parents and it is hard enough that she will not be with both of her parents so do it for your daughter give her the security of home that she knows so well she is familar with her surroundings and memories of when you were there with her don't take it away from your daughter because of the bitterness you and your wife share she did not ask to be here so give her security and her surroundings of what she is use to along with your love and support she is apart of you. You want the best for yourself I am sure so you should want the best for what is apart of you your daughter. Whatever your decision make the best one with your daughter in mind for life and future.

Answer 5

Get professional legal help.

Your wife will be entitled to 50% of everything, it's a question of whether you wish to give her more.

She could buy you out of your share of the home - say by paying for your rental accommodation. But since your daughter is only 6 year's old she can also insist on financial aid from you for your daughter's upbringing.

As I said previously get professional legal advice.

Answer 6

Sign a confession? Just stay where your at and just ignore her but not your daughter.
Go and take ALL of the equity out of the house then take her up on your offer. Sounds like you wife is covering her tracks by making you think its your fault. Stand up for yourself.

Answer 7

there is nothing to help u with. go to real estate agent and ask to valuate your place. if u have no prenup u should divide it 50-50, no matter with whom the daughter stays. so u have 2 options - either sell the house and devide half-half or she pays u your half for the house and stays in it. do not accept any other forms. if she doesn't want to sell the house u will have to go to court. court appoints special person who will sell the house, takes some fee for services and hands u the money. it will be expensive and it will be sold much cheaper, so i hope your wife will come to her senses and wouldn't let this to happen. good luck

Answer 8

u need to get an attorney and the house is community property, must be split fairly, don't sign anything, she is trying to have the courts see u as doing a wrong, so she will get more when she files. don't fall for it, get legal representation, u also have rights here.

Answer 9

Time to get a lawyer. Do you want the house and your child? If so go for it and good luck.

Answer 10

why be together if you can't stand each other.....confession to what?..get a lawyer each ...."irreconciable (SP) differences" could be a reason..the full time caretaker of the child should get the home for stability.....child support should be seperate yet reasonable......fairness should yield to the child and adults with reason...logic

Answer 11

i think that your wife should have the house as thats where your daughter is going to live as well, i do however think that you should have more than what she is offering you! good luck, remember there is a little girl involved as well.