All I can think about day and night is the need to cheat on my wife, how can I get control of my emotions?

Answer 1

That isn't emotion, it's testosterone. It is perfectly normal for most men to desire more than one partner. It is ingrained in the genes. (or maybe jeans?)

The thing is, you have to decide what you desire more. A few quick rolls in the hay with different women, or your marriage?

Because you will get caught, maybe not the first time, maybe not even the hundredth. But sooner or later, your marriage will be over.

Not to mention that if you do cheat, you are exposing yourself to a whole bunch of sexually transmitted diseases.

And then you will pass them on to your wife.

Would you really want to do that to her? Does she really deserve that?

And it isn't a need, it is a desire. Stop obsessing about it. The more you think of it, the more you will think of it.
Like being on a diet and craving chocolate.

But you are going to do what you are going to do, so no matter what anyone here says, you will do what you want.
I think you are looking for validation. Someone to tell you, "yeah, it is okay".

It isn't okay. If you wanted sex with other women, you shouldn't have gotten married. If you are determined to have sex with other women, get a divorce first.

Threesomes, orgies, etc. are not acceptable either. No marriage that I have ever heard of survives them. And the couples who swear by them aren't very loving and close. They are just together.

Answer 2

I think you need to try to channel that energy towards your relationship with your wife instead of away from her. Think about your life, your wife, all you have been through together and the things that made you fall in love with her. Focus your thoughts on her and the positives. You don't need to cheat. You have let your mind and your fantasy get the best of you. You can turn it around. Just look at what you have and then ask yourself if you are truly ready to give that up. Because if you aren't then don't cheat. Cheating will bring you nothing but trouble and sorrow in the long run. Is it worth it for a few hours of living out your fantasy? Take the high road and work on your relationship. You can make your marriage more exciting and like new again if you are willing to put in the effort.

Answer 3

You have to find a reason to think this way. Get over this if you want to make your marriage work. If you think and keep on thinking that might lead you to cheating.
Arelationshi is based on love care and trust. Once you have cheated her you will loose the quality of a relationship. So you better be faithfull to her and try to spice up your life. Talk to her openly and make her realise if you are not happy with her at any ground. You need to work towards mking your married life happier not on cheating. Spartan

Answer 4

We humans are just another species of primate: you are an embodiment of this theory, wanting to spread your genes around. Other primates don't have to deal with paternity suits, or jealous partners leaving them. Consider the likely consequences of your actions. Is she adventurous enough to consider a threesome, a wife swapping party, or an orgy? If not, you could go out of town, pay cash for a room and for a woman, or women, but are you the type who can lie and cover his tracks and not feel guilty? Otherwise, stick to porn as an outlet, or try to get her to satisfy your fantasies, by dressing in a wig and in different outfits, like, say, a nurse, or a prostitute, or schoolgirl.

Answer 5

OK, maybe I'm not the best person to tell you this, but please don't do it.

Read the Old Testament about how King David cheated on his wife. He did it, but he was so sorry afterwards......what do you want, instant gratification, of knowing that after the fact that you did the right thing.

King David did the wrong thing, he cheated, then he had his best soldier go and die in battle to cover up for his mistake because he had that erection that you have........Then since that soldier was dead, he could move in on her.

Now a days, the woman is just as much wrong as King David, was she enticing you, or asking you to cheat?

Please resist her, she is an evel serpent saying lies that Satan said when he tempted Eve in the garden.....Don't listen to them, please.

I know I am not the best one to try to convince you to not cheat, but please don't do it. My ex cheated on me when I was 5 mon. pregnant with his co worker. Our divorce finallized whe my son was about ready to walk.

What hurt are you bringing to your wife and children by you male instinct......

please stop this for doing what is right....help you by not doing this to your wife. I don't know you or her, but she is just like me, helpless to you if you continue your lies....

Let her have a chance and try to work it out. I really thought I loved my ex, until he cheated. Then it was all over. Giver your spouse the chance to try to talk with you about what you plan....please.

We are totally helpless without you, you are what guides us, you give us hope when we stay at home all day and tend to the children, so what you do is such a cruel act if you choose to abandon us. Please reconsider....

Answer 6

you are making this appear as if something is controlling your mind,well its obvious that you want this but why do you want to cheat on her,look we all have desires but dont let this fantasy ruin your life,you might enjoy this for a little while but you will regret it for your whole life,why dont you try to be honest with your wife about things that bother you.
i have cheated on my boyfriend and he has forgiven me but things are never like they used to be.

Answer 7

How can you live with yourself like that?? Do the decent thing and tell her the truth. She deserves to know, wouldn't you want to? Don't keep stringing her a long.

Answer 8

well make the love to her and then your emotions will vanish
ot think that she is angelina or nicole when you in action
i hope this help

Answer 9

get over yourself and stay true to her.