help!!im afraid 2 speak in front of ppl!!!?

Question

this is not normal coz i fear it more than , probably my entire classmates.im son shy and when im afraid, i dont know what to say.what should i do to be braver?

Answer 1

You are not alone - MANY MANY people have this fear.

When you speak, you are imagining yourself in a vulnerable and threatened position - thought this is usually not really the case.

What will begin to help you to be able to speak confidently is to actually come to believe that you are not vulnerable and compromised.

Begin by knowing your material very well - then you speak as an expert, not as a threatened, vulnerable somebody.

You should also find it helpful to fix the focus of your eye on a fixed point (or points) in the room rather than on individual faces.

Answer 2

It is just a " stage fear ", no need to worry. I do not know your age now, but sure you was not allowed or exposed to the outside during your young age.

To start with, take a text book, select a chapter, make sure your room is closed, then stand in front of a mirror, start reading text (bit loudly), look yourself in mirror frequently. Continue this for about 1-2 weeks (till you feel comfortable).

Study a topic, preferably one which has been given to all as home work, Prepare your self well, a day before submission, call couple of your class mates, rise the topic, listen their comments carefully, make notes in your mind. After you start submitting our opinion, if some one has said right, appreciate him, if some is wrong, clarify it, be authoritative (including your voice). They appreciate your knowledge about the topic. Here you feel great in mind, with the same mental strength, enter the class, say " hello " to every one. Sit proudly, in your place. When ever your teacher asks a question, if you know the answer, rise your hand very fast, before others will do.

Slowly, build your relationship with other classmates & Teachers. Involve more in question and answer session. Start participating in class debates, then jump to School level, go to Dias with confidence. Initially do not look at classmates or audience , immediately, when standing in Dias, look straight at the end, where nobody is sitting ( make sure, it should look like you are watching them) .

Practise it, it takes a long time, may be a year, do not loose heart, don't get diverted, be brave, one day you will become an excellent orator. Good luck.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there's not necessarily one answer I can think of to make you feel more brave. I have been speaking in front of people for a long time. I have had speech classes since middle school, and even took some acting class electives in college. I still feel nervous every time I have to get in front of people. I have heard of people being so nervous that they actually get sick from the tension and stress of having to go in front of people. A couple of methods I use to calm my nerves before a speech is sit low in the chair - and put the chin to my chest and take deep breaths. It doesn't look to weird in front of other people - it almost looks like you're kind of napping or something, so it's something you could do in class. If your class asks for volunteers - try to go first. That sounds terrible I know - because you're shy and you try to avoid it as long as possible, but volunteering does 2 things for you. 1st - it shows confidence, which although you may not have it deep down, it makes it look like you do. 2nd - it gets it over with so much quicker and you don't have time to work up as much anxiety. It is a terrible feeling in the pit of your stomach - trust me I know. Just try your best to remember the quicker it's done - the quicker you can stop worrying about. Best of luck to you !

Answer 4

This is one of the most common fears of individuals within society. You are not alone. However, a great way to get better or more comfortable. Be prepared with your speech, practice it in front of the mirror, time yourself. And then practice in front of family members or friends. The more you are informed and knowledgeable of the information. The more comfortable you will be with speaking in front of others. And when you do get in front of the crowd, focus on something in the room, and do your best to limit yourself from using um, and ah. You will do fine. The key, be prepared with something to say, and be knowledgeable of your subject. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 5

Public speaking is the number one fear of people. I think it is very normal to be afraid before you have to speak in front of a group of people. My wife used to be a trainer for a big corporation. She would give seminars in front of hundreds of people. Knowing her and how self concious she is I couldn't believe she did that for a living. She said that she always practiced in front of the mirror for days before a speech and always had note cards. Also, she said she would look over the top of peoples heads instead of looking at their eyes and faces because that would distract her. Practicing before your speech she said is the best way to reach a comfort level. That and just pretend like everyone in the audience is in their underwear! Believe it or not she said it worked for her. Try it. Good luck!

Answer 6

Practice "talking to yourself" like in front of a mirror, talking back to the TV, and singing in your room---all in private---until you become more confident in yourself. Once you acquire that self confidence, you won't be so concerned on how others perceive you.