i didnt actually committ adultry but we are under the impression that it will go through quicker if i admit to it please help
2007-03-27 23:53:49 · 22 answers · asked by danlyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No the reason for divorce does not come into financial matters of a divorce
2007-03-27 23:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT admit to something you have not done. Be honest and real and do not lie or be dishonest just to have it move quicker. Who is doing the filing if i may ask? What is the real reason for divorce here and have you both tried and been to marriage counseling yet? Get a good lawyer and whatever you do always be honest! If you admit to something you have not done then is it really worth it and by the way this would look REALLY bad for you in court. DO NOT DO IT! If it were me i would go to marriage counseling with my spouse first before giving up on the marriage in the first place and then if after all that it did not work then i would be honest and wait for the divorce not matter how long it took and keep my integrity instead of lying or admitting to something i did not do. You should not even be asked to do such a thing in the first place. Sounds to me like your spouse wants the house no matter what and he wants to have you lie about things so he can be the one to get it! Do not fall for this trap and fight for what you have rights too which i believe is half the assetts and that includes the house.
2007-03-28 06:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a solicitor.
There are two ways to get divorced:
Cite something against one partner- such as adultery etc..
Wait for 2 years separation- although you can lie and say you separated earlier than you actually did, so long as you can provide an address, say a mate's house, no one will check.
Whilst citing something won't make you lose your house, it isn't really worth admitting to something you didn't do unless you are both utterly respectful of each other. Divorce is incredibly messy and things will only get more difficult, regardless of whether you are amicable now. I would go for the 2 years separation but see a solicitor- even go to the same one together.
I was in the same situation myself and decided to wait for the 2 years, it was much easier and everything is perfectly amicable now- and no misplaced guilt!
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2007-03-28 08:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by roscar61 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all-why lie about something and admit to doing something that you didn't do? Let your spouse admit to the adultery if it makes things go faster!!! And no you do not loose your rights to the house-that is determined through the separation agreement you obviously will be filling later on! It does not matter which spouse admits to the adultery, or the other option is to wait for a year and a day and fill under the section of being apart and irreconcilable differences.
2007-03-28 06:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advice you admit to something you never did. First it does not guarantee a speedy divorce and secondly it may have far reaching consequences in future.
Finally, what happens if the divorce case is being heard by a judge who is bitter because HER husband is cheating on her... Heaven help you! You'll probably lose the shirt on your back as well.
Besides, if your wife is so keen on a speedy divorce, let her admit to adultry.
2007-03-28 07:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Fiji 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your future ex-spouse are looking for a speedy divorce, and confessing to adultery is not going to change the rate of the divorce procedure. It appears that you're both talking things through on how best to end your marriage. Come to an agreement on who gets what and when you file your divorce it will be uncontested. Depending on your state this can make a divorce complete 30 days after the filing date. The reasons for a divorce have nothing at all to do with the financial and property aspects. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-28 07:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is WE.? Any why is this person telling you to lie.?
The only way a divorce will go through quicker is if both partys agree on everything, like splitting things up even and not have to ask the judge for help.
2007-03-28 06:58:10 · answer #7 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I shouldnt think it would make a difference. Admitting adultry will not speed things up, takes months no matter what your conditions of divorce are.
Good though no, not a great thing to go through
2007-03-28 06:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by cavviecath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't admit to it if you didn't do it.
Why would you even consider something like that?
You would only lose ownership to the house if your wife or husband is awarded it in the divorce settlement.
I got the house when I went through a divorce...it was mine before we were married. If it was a joint measure of obtaining the house after you were married and you have kids, she might get it.
Acquire good legal council.
2007-03-28 06:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Magicman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a good lawyer. Ask people who you know have had a divorce or separation about what they thought of their lawyers and go from there. Whether you lose the house or other possessions is up to the court. But, by all means get a lawyer if you have valuable investments or property at risk.
2007-03-28 06:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by telwidit 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what does adultry have to do with the house? is your name on the morgage papers? but unfortunately if u made a prenuptual agreement where it was stated if u commit adultery u lose everything in that case yes. if there was no prenup house has nothing to do with anything. u may say whatever
2007-03-28 06:57:21 · answer #11 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋