I have recently moved to a new town and it has meant my relationship with my boyfriend turned into a long distance one. This was working great as we both made an effort (he even turned up at my office after work with flowers as a surprise in the different city). At Valentines he told me I was so much more than a valentine to him. Two weeks ago he visited me here and told me there was no other girl he could imagine spending the rest of his life with but me and that I make him very happy. Since that weekend he has become distant. Hardly any calls or emails. He seems to be pushing me away. He wouldn't talk to me at all so I went to visit him to talk. He was very strange. I asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he said nothing. I said ' so I take it that means you don't'. He said nothing. So I explained to him that i it was finished I couldn't stay friends til I got over him which would take him a while. He was crying all night and hugging and kissing me. He didn't want to let go.
2007-03-27 23:35:06 · 7 answers · asked by Bellabella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So in the morning he drove me to the station. I was so confused. He clearly didn't want to finish with me but also couldn't talk to me or reassure me. So I thought it would have to finish because as much as I love him I deserve better than a guy who can't say anything to me - even to tell me he wants space or anything. He literally said nothing. So at the station - I said 'so this is it then' and he said don't be silly 'i'll call you'. So I got on the train. I had 18 missed calls from him that day and have heard from him everyday since but I haven't replied because I can't because I need to know what he feels for me - I can't carry on with things the way they were with him not talking to me. I don't understand now - is he contacting me because he still loves me or because he just doesn't want anyone else to have me? Please help. I love him so much but I feel so much pain and confusion right now because he won't talk to me - and i have asked. Do you think that if I continue to ignore
2007-03-27 23:41:28 · update #1
him - not in a mean way but just to make him have some space - I will find out his true feelings - or do you think by doing that I will push him away?
I'm just concerned that if I go back to talking to him normally the issues will never get addressed.
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Do you agree? I need to know for real what he feels for me.
2007-03-27 23:43:41 · update #2
I truly think it is over with this guy. Some people can not take being apart from their loved ones. I am afraid he was one of them, and has moved on with his life. You need to do the same.
2007-03-27 23:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is not enough. The relationship has become too difficult. Time to part even as friends. It will be painful for both of you but do you really want to be with someone who does not talk to you. Communication is just so important. Without it there cannot be a caring or loving relationship. So do the brave thing for both of you and cut the ties instead of continuing to suffer. A sole mate does not shut you out so completely.....
2007-03-28 06:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he is taking the effort to call you EVERY day, then at least answer once, and tell him you will only consider continuuing your relationship if he can explain his behavior, and why he just stopped calling and talking to you for awhile. If he still can't answer you, just tell him what you said here, that you need to know what it was, and if not, then you don't want the relationship! by just ignoring him, he will eventually just give up and then you'll never know either way. Just talk to him and see how it goes once, and from there you can decide if you need to keep ignoring him or if you can rekindle... good luck and best wishes!
2007-03-28 07:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by sexykaeley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have already been to 3 long distance relations (I dont seem to learn ah) what I can tell you as a guy who has been deeply in love is that he either is cheating on you or he realized that maybe you both have different paths to follow and being apart is the best for you.
I really hope that you can work things out, hey, if you are meant to be you are meant to be....
Otherwise, I have to use the line, its always for the best..
2007-03-28 06:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by gaijin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god!you are sooo impatient!you western girls dump guys at the drop of a hat. cant you understand that he was missing you?cant you understand that something is wrong? talk to him!he must have done something wrong while he was missing you or he might want you to move backbut is scared to ask. talk to him.dont breakup cause he said nothing!try to find the truth. the truth will set you free.
2007-03-28 07:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to be with you, and was just going through a rough time before, I say give him anouther chance.
2007-03-28 06:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has a problem. give him time, he will be okay. believe me.
2007-03-28 06:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by idah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋