How do I stop people from interfering in the ways I bring up my baby?

Question

People include strangers, parents, siblings..and they all give unneeded and unasked dictations!! I want to raise my child the way I find it best.

Answer 1

So do so. Just because advise is offered doesn't mean it has to be taken. As long as you're not endangering your child's life or abusing him in any way, you shouldn't get so hung up on what anyone else thinks.

If you really feel you must respond to uninvited advise, try a polite smile and calmy, but firmly, saying "thanks for the advise, but I wasn't really asking for any." I've found that works wonders.

Answer 2

Unless you give your baby away to someone and they bring your child up, then really you're the only who will.

I am sure you can cope with other people just being human and they will dispense their adive. You're the one who has to listen to it.

I would be worried if others were to interfere physically but I am sure that you didn't meant the question in that way.

As long as you remember that your baby will grow up and will have his/her unique ideas about life as you may have to except some choices they will make later on.

As a parent, you will be able to guide you child into the world with the knowledge you have and you also will learn something new.

Happy Parenting

Answer 3

Well people will ALWAYS think their ways are best. And if they find a first time parent think that they need all the help they can get. So what you do is ignore them. I mean you can listen to what they have to say if they are friends or family but tell them you don't agree with their view or that you really don't want their opinion. Tell them that this is your child and you want to raise your child your way and that unless you are endangering your child or you ask for help or opinions that you don't want it.

Answer 4

Do what I do when I get "you dont want to be doing that", or "she needs another blanket on" etc.etc.

I just say that I value your comments & advice but that the decisions on how, when, where & what I do with my baby will always be my own and nobody elses.

There is a fine line between helpful advice and unwanted interference. I can sympathise with you totally .... hope everything settles down and your friends / family get the message.

Answer 5

just say thank u and walk away or just tell them straight out that u want to raise ur own kid the way you want to. no one knows ur baby other than urself u carried that child in u for nine months and u dont need their help not all babies are the same or should they be raised the same

Answer 6

Dream on - the only way you can avoid this is by not leaving the house and breaking off all ties to the outside world, especially grandparents!

Answer 7

just say - thanks for your concern -

however, it's surprising in my neck of the woods - how many heads turn when a little one coughs like they're choking - and then we all relax when the throat is cleared

being a grandparent - I know what two do - twice over -
but - I also know that free advice is worth about that much,
too

so, I don't throw my pearls out - unless asked

Answer 8

Good for you!!

I know it would be easier to tell them to butt out but you might end up alienating close friends and family. Just nod and smile....they will stop eventually.
Believe it or not, they probably think they are being helpful.

Do what you think is best and the little one will turn out just fine.

Answer 9

Listen and ignore. People will aways try to be "helpful in the advice department".
If you encounter someone who says I told you to do it this way why are you still doing it that way. Just smile and say because this is the way I choose to do it.
As my mother-in-law use to say, "wondermom", lets me have my say then ignores me.

Answer 10

It is human nature to give advice (though not called for). Just listen to them and ignore and do what you think is best for your child.

Good luck and God bless.