i have a friend. we were pretty close. but somehow i just cannot stand her.
she always expect me to give in to her. i feel like i am being taken advantage. there was once, i got yelled by her, because of a tiny problem. she could had said nicely to me about the problem, instead of yelling.
another thing i hate about her is that she's a racist. sometimes we worked together, and this race of people came to our cafe to eat, she will start whining and complaining about these customers. and she will comment on their skin color. i feel that its VERY rude, but i keep quiet about it.
thirdly. she betrayed me thrice.
fourthly. she talked behind my back about my bad things. for eg, she claimed that i am desperate for guys just because i had 3 ex-boyfriends.
however, i only have her as my best female friend. because we get along re. recently, i ignored her. but sometimes i feel that i am bad doing that. am i right doing that, considering the disrespect she's giving me?
2007-03-27 22:29:21 · 8 answers · asked by superwoman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How can you be close or feel good about someone who you deep down harbor hate and animosity? This person is toxic who manipulates and controls you while poisoning your mind with guilt. After all the rotten things she's done you should have been done with her long ago. The only reason you believe that you "get along" is because she has you psychologically shackled to her crazy self absorbed egotistical demeanor. All you've done is let her walk all over you and make you give in to her. So who's fault is that? You've just gave four reasons for being rid of her so what are you waiting for and why are you being so quiet about such brazen mistreatment? Whatever hold she has over you, you got to cast it, along with the accompanied guilt, aside and get her completely out of your life. This inner turmoil is eating you up from the inside and will further drag you down. If you continue putting up with this any longer then your life will never be your own and you will have just yourself to blame. So before you go totally crazy, decide once and for all that you've had enough and stick to what you know is best for yourself.
2007-03-27 23:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose another friend and while doing so, you may wish to examine why you're choosing such "friends".
Loving friends embrace and uplift not only each other - but others - even strangers. Now, not to get all religious on you, but we can see how some of our religious friends make sense - when you look at what Love really is:
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (New International Version)
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4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
2007-03-28 05:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by Dan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend sounds as being very domineering. You should distance yourself a little bit for a while (don't break the friendship, but start by seeing other people too). Probably you are too close and she feels entitle to judge you all the time. A little bit of detachment from your part should cure that, if she values your friendship.
2007-03-28 05:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by remy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you are right. A true friend would never do those sort of things to you. But maybe you could talk to her about it, explain that some of the things that she does hurts you. Hopefully she will understand and you can continue being friends. Good luck!!
2007-03-28 05:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by lydz . x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the sound of your story, it looks like you're suffering from what i call the "assistant" syndrome.
you tolerate your friend because as u have said, "only have her as my best female friend."
the best way to deal with this is dump her. she's not worth to be called "best friend."
unshackle yourself from her mighty chain and be free!
find yourself a "true" friend.
2007-03-28 05:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow
i feel that you are talking about me i have the same problem
i have a friend who acts exactly like yours i don't know how to deal with her
today she screamed at me with no reason and Embarrassed me
2007-03-28 08:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by oih 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you get along? what is she like when you DON'T get along? what is going on with you? does she have you under some kind of spell? now stop acting like a puppet and cut loose from her.Think!
2007-03-28 05:38:31 · answer #7 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need her as your friend??? GET RID OF HER
2007-03-28 05:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋