Am I going mad?

Question

Hi, I'm 25 years old and I think I'm having a not quite mid life crisis. I've been in my job for 3 months and am completely down the middle about whether it is the thing for me or not. My boss is my landlord and so I can't switch off from work. I'm on minimum wage so can't afford to move out of my house share into another place. I have the option of going back to mum's but will lose independance and i fear my life will become terribly dull. My girlfriend doesn't know if she wants me any more because I'm so down all the time. I have a lot of time to think at work which doesn't help as my brain is going round in circles. I also suffer from o.c.d. The only good things about the job are that its close to home and mon -fri 9-5.30. and the career ladder is quite good. The trouble is I don't know whether to stick to it and/or move house. Arrgghh! My only real escape at the moment is watching films to take me away from it all. I have a doctors appointment for depression today. Please Help!!

Answer 1

It appears that the primary cause of your stress is work. There is a serious predicament between work and personal life.

If you find it complicated to have your boss as your landlord as well, better give up one of them. Why not stay in your mom's home for a while until you get yourself financially established again, just do a few savings until you can afford another place to live. Otherwise, prepare yourself financially before quitting your job for a new one. While you're still in your present job, try to fish out other opportunities. Three months maybe a short term but who knows, there just might be other opportunity with a higher compensation that awaits you. That way, you get to separate your boss AND your landlord.

Also, your reaction to work affects your personal and love life. Give quality time to your girlfriend, she deserves it; or assess yourself, do you still love her? If not, then you don't deserve each other anymore. Just let go or you will just complicate things even more. If you do love her, fight for it. Don't let that stress at work stand between you and your girlfriend. Maintain being together always. Watch movies, this way you can relieve from stress and be her company at the same time. And tell her your problems, I'm sure she can help, you both should be there for each other...

Best of luck!

Answer 2

It's very significant that you have been there 3 months. If you were older and had had more jobs you would know that at just about 3 months is when the gloss - the 'honeymoon period' wears off every job - however great it is. This means you can't really trust your judgement about the job right now. Stick it out for another 6 months and you will have a more balanced view and probably you will not be in any doubt then whether it is for you or not.

Also, never make career or any important decisions when you are in the grip of depression - it skews your judgement so badly.

Good luck and I hope you feel better.

Answer 3

i would say you should turn to God to help you decide what to do with your life. if you open your heart to God, He will show you the path He wishes to see you on. if your girlfriend doesn't want you anymore just because you are going through a rough patch with depression right now, then she doesn't deserve you! you should be a with a woman that will respect you, want you, and LOVE you no matter what you are going through. a woman who will gladly support you at any time, and be there for you, with patience and understanding. if she can't provide that for you, and wants to escape from it by dumping you, then FORGET HER, she's not worthy of you! i would say, try not to turn to medicine for help with your depression if you can. try just some counseling first, and see if you can get to the root and the bottom of this issue, before you resort to medication.

Answer 4

no. this is depression just like you mentioned! get a new girlfriend!