'ive been stabbed 12 times by a 7 year old' was the headline of my magazine who do u blame parents or society

Question

i blame the parents, this 7 year old shouldnt even know about how our society is. They should be out playing in the garden and with toys not with knives they should be out of reach, im disgusted! Parents buck up!

sorry make that 21 times!! all because this woman was havin a tiff with her best friend and her bestfriends son stabbed her for this this happened in Liverpool

Answer 1

I think the parents have a big part to play in this. Its the environment that they grow up in and their surroundings that make them the people that they are. Society also plays a part but overall the parents are totally responsible and should takefull responsibility for their childrens actions. I would never dream of doing this when i was 7 years old and this was to do with the way i was brought up by my parents. Some parents have totally wrong morals!!

Answer 2

Hmm..i'd say both. I hate blaming society though. Just because a few incidents of children commiting violent crimes, they blame it on our society for allowing television shows and certian music. How come most of the other kids that watch these shows don't do these acts?

Maybe this kid was quiet, but felt neglected....he was taught not to paly with knifes and they can hurt people. Then something snappened....a primal instinct maybe, and he went with the knife.

My problem with blamign the parents....ok an example. Society says having premarital sex is cool. Its not some act punishable by death or torture/ castration...etc. Love doesn't have to be inlvoed jsut stirahgt sex.

Then some kid gets preganant and the parent is to blame for not raising their kid right. The parents blame in this situaiton is not watchign if their kids were eating paint chips as babies. How dumb can someone be to think penis + vagina does not equal a baby. Can't blame the parents there.....you could blame society, but its what hte norm thinks.

Now i think its really impossible to konw, jsut from your question.....need to konw about where the perosn lived and what his parents were like . Was the dad never around, or did he always come home after work and spend time iwth the family. Did teh kid come from a rough area.

I mean...i come form a nice..well to do area. MY little bro, when he gets angry...he gets scissors and cuts things...like t-shirts..headfones. No one told him to do this as angermangement.....i dotn' think tis been done on tv. The parenting came in to teach him not to do it. But then in those extreme anger moments. he groes straight for those scissors and cuts something without thinking. He cant even figure out why he did it or chose that object.

What part of society also is a question sometimes. Are we lookign at his neighboorhood or society as a whole. That if this kid did come from an impoverished neighborhood. Most of society doesnt' care that neighbourhood exists as long as those people stay there. THey get underpaid, so they can't leave, their kids can't get a decent education, so they wont' leave and the problem is contained.

In the end, i think both society and parneing are both not good blames. Should be dealing straight with the kid and finding otu what is wrong with him then trying to deal with somethign else.

Answer 3

I blame Dr. Spock who got the idea of how to raise a child started. When there really is no exact idea of how to raise a child and no definition of what love means and the proper expression of it. It is all a romantic vision that society picks up and it becomes systemic.

For some reason people have a need to control other people in life and impose their viewpoints on the whole and then make it into laws rather then seeing that each human being and nearly each and every situation is different.

Right and Wrong are perceptions, not concrete words, they say a lot and mean a little. They can be imposed and yet twisted to fit the need of the person imposing them. Some parents are afraid to discipline their children for fear of what others will think of them or what might be done to them for it.

We don't have to abuse to discipline and yet we have that word all stretched out of whack as well. Now at the drop of the hat or for any kind of personal gain somebody wants to holler abuse, but that is abusive in and of itself.

I don't think we can blame it on just one thing, but I do think that these kinds of stories create a lot of hysteria for the reasons that they intend which is to show how terrible that it really can be sometimes and then say every parent and every child and every system person and every person and everything is all just the same and that it is more of a problem then what it is so that we should make this law or this policy must be put in place and funded, instead of saying in this instance something should be done imediately to stop this. Whatever the something is that would be most relevant to stopping that specific instance or thing and making a proper correction in it.

There must be discretion, and not just finger pointing and blame. People have to be able to take appropriate actions in the appropriate ways at the appropriate times and since parents are ultimately held responsible and actually hold themselves responsible and take on the blame and shame of what their children do, that means that in most instances others should stay out of their business of raising their children. But that doesn't happen.

Yes, this seems to be an instance where maybe more should be done to intervene, but who is the proper person and what is the proper way is really the thing we need to think about not who is to blame and who is not to blame because to me it is all of us. We all hold some culpability in this and in stopping it, and if we don't hold ourselves responsible and then fingerpoint and blame we are all in the wrong.

Answer 4

yes i blame the parents . as a parent myself i have a 7 year old boy and i know what my son is doing every second of the day even at school as i work there .
and i do agree that knives are to be kept out of reach of children . also why did this child get so angry to stabb some one in the first place? was the parent winding him up?

Answer 5

Parents.What the hell are knives doing lying around the house?they should be stored away somewhere where this little Michael Myers cant reach them.And you cant blame kids if they start copying the teenage mutant ninga meercats or whatever they are called by playing with weapons,the parents should limit the time they watch tv and play games on the playstation

Answer 6

Society doesn't raise the child, parents do (or should). For some reason everytime some lazy parent who spends no time with their child or sits them in front of a TV for hours on end catches crap for something their delinquent child does, its always "Society" to blame.

Here's a novel idea: If you cant raise the baby, dont have a baby! that goes for paying to cloth and feed it as well. Birth control is free in many places and unless you're raped, your legs close just like they open.

Answer 7

It most likely is the parents, I agree! It's rare for a child to come from a loving, supportive background and only do this kind of thing because their friends or 'society' have talked them into it. I don't know the circumstances of this particular case, but I have a certain picture in my mind of what this kid's parents are like.... *cough* Jeremy Kyle's guests *cough*

xx Emmie

Answer 8

I think its a combination of the parents, society and maybe who this kids role model was. But i mainly blame the parents, Where would he get the knife from otherwise?

Answer 9

parents!

got 4 kids and it starts at home!

if you have bad parenting how do you expect kids to turn out?

my youngest is 8 and he knows right from wrong

kids need punishment and need to know the boundaries.

i dont mean beating them up (although a smack on the bum sometimes works)

if my kids have slipped out of line.... banning t.v, psp and playing with friends after school works better.

for the older ones..... confiscate the mobile and internet(msn)

Answer 10

parents are to blame for this one.like you say knives should be out of reach! i have 3 kids, oldest 10 and the only knife he uses is to butter his toast... if i thought for 1 min he would be the type to use it inappropriately then he wouldn't even be allowed a butter knife.