My boyfriend married someone from india she knows about me and everything. Me and him have been together for 3 years. He married this girl because his parents wanted him to. I love him he says he loves me too but why did he get married? And why is he so mean to me?
2007-03-27 21:55:27 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think everyone should know i was born in canada. He is also a canadian citizen. He is very afraid of my brother and my brother doesnt know that he did this. Apparently his mother is the one who forced him into it. We are both from the same caste and everything and he has promised to marry me.
2007-03-28 09:28:17 · update #1
First thing he never loved you, simply used you for his sexual satisfaction. Had he loved you he would have insisted to get married with you rather then this girl who knew about your affairs with him? If it was a girl in your boyfriend’s place we can say she was forced to do so under family/social pressure but nowadays even the girls in India insist to get married to the person of their choice irrespective of the difference in religion or caste or region, leave aside boys of modern Indian society. So just making excuses of family / social pressure he cannot find excuse in not marring you. He was really mean with you. Just forget this episode as bad dream & find a suitable match for yourself. I know it is very difficult to forget all this but time is the best healer & with time one day you will get a man who will really love you & provide you all the comfort of the matrimonial home. God bless you.
2007-03-28 00:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm sorry about what happened to you.
Please forget about him. He's not worth it. Did he think about you before he got married? If he REALLY loved you, he would tell his parents about you.
I was from India too but I've had relatives who married against their parent's wishes and even after the marriage, the parents didn't disown them or anything.
If he tells you that he loves you and he misses you, don't believe him. It's just rubbish. He's just being selfish. He just wants to drag you along.
Ask yourself, why can he have a life with someone and you can't? Don't put your life on hold because of this person.
You need to be strong and not believe every word he says to you and you need to pick yourself up and move on in life. You deserve so much better.
2007-03-27 22:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has to do with Indian culture. Most sons or daughters generally obeyed their parents when it comes to marriages. I'm afraid there isn't much you can do now except to move on. Besides, this guy should have stood by you. I've known of some guys who did that and their parents chased them out of the house. It all work well because these guys too want to run away from the parents so it was a Win-Win!
2007-03-27 22:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're still with him? You can still love him, but let him go. He went to India and married someone behind your back. He let his mom (supposedly) convince him to marry someone. And you still want to be with this guy? You will not have a happy life. You'll never be first. You'll always be after his mom and his wife, and who knows how many more wives. Get out and run.....
2007-03-28 16:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that your b/f has no guts to face his parents and tell them about you. Out of your own will you have stayed with him for 3 years. Was it without marriage? Was it a live-in relationship? Then there is nothing to worry about. You just forget him and the three years and get on with life. Look for someone else and carry on. But this time, please get married if you want a legal and binding relationship.
2007-03-27 22:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're better off without him. If he's so much under his parent's thumb there would never be any happiness for you. Obviously this was an arranged marriage and he would've been promised to her from a child. This is often a problem getting involved with people from cultures with arranged marriages.
He probably did love you, but it was never going to go anywhere as far as he was concerned. He conned you into believing he was available.
2007-03-27 22:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some cultures still pratice the tradition of pre-arranged marriages and it sounds like that is the case here. The reason he is so mean to you is, probably, you don't understand that he had to marry this woman and that you must accept this and leave him alone. If this is the case, consider yourself lucky that you are not with this loser. If he knew about this pre-arranged marriage and yet was emotionally involved with you, then calling him a loser is a polite term indeed.
2007-03-27 22:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by acedelux 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off very sorry to hear about that. And you know thats really bad. I am also indian but i love one israeli girl but no matter what ever it takes i will not leave her. Waht so good about indian women .Usually indian mens thinjs indian wife are more faithful that other one which i belive is a peice of ****. Well in indian and arabic culture arriagne marriage virus is the main culprit of every trouble. Well dont loose heart. Try to speak to him. Becuase i am sure if he is not happy with his indian wife he willd efently leave him because it dint make much bloody sence to leave with a person whom u dont like.
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Good luck and dont loose heart
2007-03-27 23:06:07 · answer #8 · answered by vikas_dellcomputers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is he has done a right thing .
By how many yrs he know u?
Byhow many yrs he love u?
But he love his parents by his birth
Do u think he has done a wrong thing.
Put yors self in place of a mother whosw son /daughter has married some where else without your permission then only u will have your answer.
2007-03-27 22:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MEAN TO YOU? You ought to be glad that you were not married before he went to India; culture or no culture; he does not have a brain cell working...who knows who else he might decide to marry after he leaves the country? this guy is not trustworthy!
2007-03-27 22:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Pooks 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋