Should one look for a really beautiful wife or is this just a delusion and the beauty of a women doesnt really matter much in a marriage.
2007-03-27 21:25:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Beauty is skin deep. Instead of looking for her physical beauty, look at her inner beauty.. Is she feminine, is she kind, is she loving, is she caring, is she good with children, is she good with her parents... etc...
2007-03-27 21:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who stated to me that if he was ever going to get married, the woman had to have the looks of a fashion model (i.e she had to be VERY good looking). This was in 1995 when he said that. He's still single and I don't think will ever get married.
Years ago when I was single, I went out with two girls that most men would describe as beautiful. One of them looked like she should have been a Playboy centerfold. Anyway, while both of them were nice and VERY easy on the eyes, both of them had some serious "issues" that would have been almost impossible for any man to overcome. Among them, they were so in love with themselves, I don't know if they could have ever loved someone else. I'm not saying all beautiful women have issues but the ones I knew or dated did.
What you need to do is not be so obsessed with looks. They're nice, don't get me wrong but that stuff fades with time. What's more important is finding a woman that makes you laugh, is intelligent, has similar values and ideas about right and wrong, that really cares about you and is fun to be with. If she also happens to be attractive, that's just gravy on the mashed potatoes.
There are a gozillion women out there like that. Now you need to go and find one.
2007-03-27 23:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry for beauty alone, youre going to be very disappointed in a short time. Society has taught us over the years that marrying a beautiful woman is a sign of status. Maybe it was but was not a need for longevity. Youd be better off marrying one for her heart and brains than beauty, but then beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so whats beautiful to you may not be to others so whose definition do you marry beauty by. Majority of the famous beautiful women in the world have failed marriages. There are always exceptions to everything too.
2007-03-27 22:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is superficial. What will you do when she gets older and she's not as beautiful at 50 as she was when she was 30? How about her beautiful personality, her beautiful sense of humor or better yet...her beautiful soul? There is a LOT more to a woman than her facial features. She could be the most beautiful person on the outside, but how beautiful is she on the inside? She might be the b**ch from hell.
2007-03-28 03:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman who doesn't take care of her body and takes no pride in her appearance is telling you that she comes with a lot of issues that will detract from the relationship and make it unhealthy. So even if you're the least-shallow guy on earth and looks don't matter to you at all a woman's physical appearance should still matter on some level.
Also this is *marriage* you're talking about, not some experiment in social dynamics. If you marry a woman you aren't attracted to, you're doing both of you a huge disservice. It's not fair to you, it's not fair to her, and it *will* make a difference and probably will eventually destroy the relationship.
You have the right (in fact the duty and obligation) to be choosy when selecting a mate. I'm not saying looks are the most important thing - they aren't. But they are one of the important things and you should take them into account.
2007-03-27 21:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the GOLD! Are you crazy? Of course it matters how beautiful a woman is. However, beauty can come from within. The person's character is what counts. What are her morals? What are her beliefs? Is God a major part of her life? Have her take a personality test. You will be surprised how accurate it is. Do it for yourself too.
Get a prenuptial agreement before marriage. People change and you better protect yourself as the divorce rate is very high.
2007-03-27 21:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Steven A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every woman is beautiful in her own way, whether it's physical beauty or not.
The point is that if a woman is beautiful on the inside, it shouldn't matter what others think of her physical appearance.
Remember that physical beauty only lasts so long - she will get old and will not be what she once was. It is her personality that you will have to live with when the outer beauty fades...
2007-03-27 21:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by leila 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder lol... Out ward beaty is okay BUT it is inner beauty and her heart that will shine through and last foreveer. Outer beauty fades over time anyways and then what will you do? Would you still love your wife if she gets wrinkled and older looking or is that when you will look at other women and hurt your wife?
2007-03-27 23:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you love someone, the more beautiful they are to you. You can't fall in love with looks, that's just lust. Love comes from knowing a person and feeling connected to them. You'll be surprised at how beautiful the person you love looks to you. That's who you want to marry, regardless of whether or not the rest of the world thinks they are beautiful. All that matters is if YOU think they are beautiful. And beauty is in the loving eye of the beholder.
2007-03-27 21:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cassandra G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty shouldn't matter unless you're looking for a trophy. Besides, beauty fades with time. Do you want a long marriage or a short one?
2007-03-27 21:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by peanut g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, the most important factor for marriage is that you both are compatible with each other. meaning you have the same likes or dislikes. The beauty is just a bonus. Would you rather have a beautiful wife but is also irresponsible?
2007-03-27 21:30:10 · answer #11 · answered by alain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋