Well, I meet this girl some time ago... I was very attracted to her. She is gorgeous!!! But for some reason she couldn't stand me. Anyway, we ended up sharing a condo together. So even though I didn't like her and she me, we deiced to stay on our side of the condo. Six months later and we hardly get along. She acts very much like a *****! Getting mad over stupid little things. Long story short, I woke up last night. I heard something. It was coming from in her room. I knew it wasn’t a guy; she doesn’t have a boyfriend for some insane reason. I knocked on the door. There was no answer. I went in. She was curled up in bed having a nightmare, sobbing, and pushing at the sheets as if it were something or someone trying to harm her. I tried to wake her up, but this only made things worse. She began clawing at me and sobbing really badly, over and over, “ No, don-’t, don’t…Ple-ase I’m so so-rry, don’t ple-ase!” I gathered her up in my arms and tried to calm her down. She was burning up with fever! Her heart was pounding hard against my chest. Her eyes were huge, confused, and very frightened. It was very weird seeing her like this. She put me through hell and I should have walked away. But I couldn’t. She cried for over an hour as I held her, stroking her back and hair. When she finally stopped, she called my name as if confused, and said, “ Don’t leave me. I didn’t want him to hurt me again, I just didn’t want him to…”She buried her face in the side of my neck and started to cry again until she fell asleep. I don’t know how to ask her who hurt her, how, and when, without making her cry. How should I go abut it??? Should I even ask her???
2007-03-27 20:37:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
'She buried her face in the side of my neck and ......until she fell asleep' All the signs are there. Can't you get it? Ask her out. It is you she wants, and I think you want her too. Sometimes love behaves in strange ways.
2007-03-29 01:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by mothergoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Dean,
I wouldn't ask her anything about it - she will respect and trust you more if you don't.
If an oportunity comes up for you to say something to her in private you could tell her if she ever needed to talk to you it would go no further!
Well anyway, I wish you all the best with this girl and I suspect the reason she is hitting out at you is a reaction to what she may have gone through in the past.
Sophia x
2007-03-27 20:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that whatever or whpever has hurt her has done it bad
i think you should not say anything for now and see if she tells you, maybe her being hurt is the reason she hated u maybe she hates all guys
give it a while see if it happens again if it does then ask her just say your worried about her and see if she wants to talk. But dont push her or she will not say anything
good luck i think your great considering she has given you alot of crap and you still sat by her side when she needed you most well done hun xxx
2007-03-27 20:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Elektra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this happen with my nephew all the time, but the first time it happened was when he was 7.
In order to ask him, i took him out for a day of fun, love and enjoyment. When it came to the end of the day, i asked him what was going on when he was crying after his "scary dream" as he was calling it and he answered honestly even though it was none of my business.
I suggest that you do the same.
2007-04-04 09:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by True-death 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI dean!
complicated situatiom... maybe u want to know the reason of why she had that nightmare, but l think the best thing u can do is to wait, and likely she 'll explain it to u unless u were invadent,but don't think u'll be... good luck for everything
2007-03-27 21:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say to her that you are very sorry for whatever it was that made her have such a nightmare and if she ever wants to talk about it with you, she can. That's all you can do without seeming like you are intruding into her life before she was sharing with you.
2007-03-27 20:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't going to bother reading this cos its SO long but boy can you tell a story.! I think you should sit her down and say look love who is hurting you ? tell her that you wanna help her and that you hated seeing her like that. I think she will open up to you, as she can see how kind you was when she needed someone to help her. Good luck with this.
2007-04-04 13:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by comforting her. I think you should wait to see if she talks to you about it. She may be embarrassed that you saw her that way. If this happens again, I would definitely ask her what was going on in her dream.
2007-03-28 01:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else. Be nice to her when ever she is nasty to you. Show her that you aren't going to hurt her physically or mentally, be supportive and over time she will realise that you are someone she can trust and rely on, and then finally open up to you.
Good luck x
2007-03-27 20:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by natasha * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your that concerned sit her down and ask her .. be nice about it and be understanding .listen more then you speak
Tell her exactly what happened . This might be the thing that gets you two closer .. if thats what you want and I think you do
For whatever reason she called your name ..so take it from there ....
2007-03-27 20:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by myopinionforwhatitsworth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋