My two year old son is not interested in trucks, trains,planes etc etc?

Question

He has always been more into dolls, pretty girls things, makeup. I love my son unconditionaly and im not at all worried. I dont care either ither what his sexual preference will be when he is older. He is my son and I will always except him for who he chooses to be. But my question is, is this normal behaviour? At what age did realise you were homo sexual?

Please do not insult me with insulting answers, I genuinly would like some input. Thanks very much. I also realise that hes only two and that I shouldnt be thinking of such things yet. Im just curious.

Answer 1

I believe that it is normal behaviour. As a child, I played with G.I Joe and Tonka Trucks. I turned out to be a lesbian. I have friends whose children, boys, played wtih Barbie, etc, and some turned out to be gay, others didn't.

Personally, I knew I was a lesbian when I was four. Yes, that young, contest if you want, but I knew. I daresay I always knew, but that's just my personal belief.

And I think it's great that you're not worried and that you except him, I think it's fantastic and that more parents should take a page from your book. OK, your son plays with dolls. One day, maybe he'll start playing with GI Joe, but either way you'll always love him!

Answer 2

I knew at a very young age. It's okay to think of things like this, because as a parent you want the best for your child. It could be a phase he's going through. I am not insulted by your question at all. If anything, I am thankful for you posting such a nice question here. Your son is already a lucky child with a father like you...too bad there aren't more like you around. Good going!

Answer 3

Well there has always been a debate around nature versus nurture, and i think boths sides have something to be taken into consideration...you should not punish or forbid your son from playing with dolls since he will develop creativity, sentimenatl feelings and care, which are very good characteristics for people in general, and should not push him to play with soldiers, trucks and the like, if he is not interested then he just simply isnt...the fact that he is playing with dolls at the age of two is nothing to be worrying about, he will discover his sexual orientation sometime around the age of 9 till 12, but i must tell you that your upbringing will play a role, although you may let him play with dolls and etc...you should also try to portray for him masculine traits, like play soccer or basketball with ihm, go hiking, fishing and the like...and it is great to hear how supportive, open minded and caring you are asa father...no matter what sexual orientation your son will have in the future, remember it is not his choice, it is something he was born with...just love him unconditioannly and raise him to be a great person...

Answer 4

It's VERY normal! Embrace it; if he wants a Barbie over a GI Joe then let him play with the Barbie. Studies have shown ten times over that boys who are more interested in "girl" toys inevitably grow out of it by the time they get into elementary school. By embracing what he's truly interested in, you're building a strong foundation for him to be able to voice his opinion, make decisions and be comfortable in his own skin.

There are many reasons why children, in this case boys, enjoy playing with dolls and other girly things. The biggest reason is realism. All children will come into contact with someone who loves them and nurtures them; most of the time it's the mother (tho obviously not always) and the child relates a doll to real life. In other words, your son could just be associating the doll with humans and that's to be expected. Another reason why both genders of children are interested in dolls is because it allows them to act out how they view their life. They can be a "big boy" or "big girl" and change the dolls clothes just like their parents change their clothes. They can use their imagination and play with the dolls while acting out an incident they may have recently experienced. Children also look at dolls and see that they have two legs, arms, and eyes just like they do so then it allows them to become aware of other aspects of life such as anatomy. I could go on and on about why boys enjoy dolls and the benefits of allowing them to freely choose their toys and interests, but in the end, all the reasons are positive ones and should certainly be reinforced. Your son should never have anyone chastise him for the things he is interested in, especially at his age.

Sadly, even in 2007, we have those who believe that if boys play with "girl" toys, then they will become gay. Sure maybe back in the 1940s this could have been deemed the "truth" but it's clearly not and yet we still have many people believing in ignorant lack-of-facts based information.

If you truly feel how you say you do then I commend you for not shunning your son or his behavior. Kudos to you my friend! I wish you and your family the very best!

On a final note, if it makes you feel any better, my 4 year old daughter is quite the girly girl but don't you dare try to take her planes, cars or trains away. She is obsessed with aircraft and trains like you wouldn't believe! She also loves Hot Wheels! She's got loads of Hot Wheels, trains and aircraft. I've discovered she loves helicopters far more than regular planes!

Answer 5

Totally normal, most effeminate homosexuals and transgenders are acutely aware of their difference from their earliest memories. I was the same way at that age, most of the others like me I know have been passive and effeminate their whole lives. He may mature to be a very effiminate straight man, actually it has been observed that many women find effimenacy a rather desirable trait when evaluating long-term partners (effiminate guys make caring fathers). He may also grow up to be a girlish femme gay guy or possibly even a transgender. You actually probably should be thinking of these things, children are too undeveloped at that age to fake their persona so there's a very good chance that what you see is what your son truly is. Middle school kids are subject to peer influence, adolescent confusion, and "phases". Toddlers however are not.

Answer 6

What two-year old boy is interested in trucks, trains, and planes? None that I know of.

You will know soon enough what your little boy is. Don't start labeling him based solely on his playtime interests.

As to your other question: Most homosexuals tend to know they are different from their peers very early, probably long before they have a sexual thought. Bisexuals tend not to be like this though -- they usually begin to notice things around pre-adolescence or adolescence.

Your son's interests may be more indicative of his home environment (what's available to play with, who his playmates are). Or it may point towards what he is inclined to do professionally in life, like becoming a professional artist of some sort. You should not attribute everything he does at this point as indicating any type of sexual preference.

I hope this helps you.

Answer 7

Yes, it is a normal thing, you will do him more damage if you refuse to let him play with the things he likes, thereby making them "bad." It doesn't mean he will automaticlly grow up to be gay either. There have been quite a few straight fashion designers. It shows what a good parent you are that you want to the right thing for him, no matter what. Kudos to you!

Answer 8

Hey, like many people said this is quite normal. Would you be asking this question if instead you had a daughter that was interested in trucks and cowboys instead of makeup and dolls? Probably not.

Answer 9

I'm happy i am not alone in this... I have exactly passed through what your son is experiencing now. I could still remember when I was 4, I was having a fight with my sister because I want his doll in exchange for the robot toy my father gave me... Now, I'm 28 and proudly gay.

There's nothing wrong with your son. He is still very young and we cannot tell yet what he's sexual reference would be.

There's nothing wrong with being gay also.

Thank God for sending mothers like you.

Answer 10

Dude, you are jumping the gun on this one. The kinds of toys he likes to play has nothing to do with his sexual orientation. Nothing. Introduce him to other things if you don't like what toys he plays with. Its ridiculous to think he might be gay because he likes pretty dollies. Homosexuality, just like heterosexuality, is written into our genetic codes. At age two, there is no way to tell his preference because HES WAY TOO YOUNG.