she has only just turned 3 and she still breastfeeds before she goes to bed. i also have 6 month old twins that i breastfeed 3 times a day. and to make it even worse i am 2 and a half months pregnant with twins. do u think i should cut her nightly breastfeed?
2007-03-27 20:23:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
it is the only one on one time that we get together at the moment. i have tried weaning her, giving her sippy cup with milk, water, even tried a bottle with milk, she wouldnt have it.
2007-03-27 20:32:11 · update #1
starwoode: we were on birth control when i became pregnant with my second lot of twins, sometimes these things happen. remember no contraception is 100%
2007-03-27 20:33:51 · update #2
tonite i am going cold turkey with her. its going to be a long night i think!
2007-03-27 20:39:20 · update #3
Go with your gut feeling on that. Not sure what that is doing on your body. I would hope that your eating allot of food (Healthy food) and drinking tons of water. You will be looking at feeding 5 kids at same time in your life. I believe it can be done if that's what your choice is to do but I would surely ask your doctor or lactation consultant if this is an ok thing to do. Also what you will need to do to be successful. As for your daughters age, it is perfectly normal to keep up on the nursing. it is a good bonding time and it helps keep her heather. Bless your heart. :)
2007-03-27 21:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Angelfur 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to her about it. She should be verbal enough to let you know what she's ready for. If you are getting worn out, let her know. She will learn compassion if you wean her gently.
If it is your special time together, but you no longer want to nurse, then replace it with another ritual that is special, such as a favorite book, or songs. I started to read the full Winnie The Pooh books to my daughter at age 3 when she was no longer nursing to sleep. She didn't day wean until 40 months and she is so very strong, healthy and independant now at age 10.
Do what feels right and respectful for your child.
BTW breastmilk does not rot teeth! It is non-human milk, served in bottles in bed that causes milk to pool around the teeth and cause decay. Breastfeeding doesn't work like that, the suckling motion moves the milk effectively down the throat!
PLEASE DON"T "COLD TURKEY" HER!!!!!!
You will cause her emotional trauma if you do not do this gently. Three year-olds are very sensitive and she needs a warning about this big change that is going to happen soon. Be gentle with her, show her respect and let her be part of the process. Some kids even have "weaning parties" where they celebrate their transition to big kid. Being force from their comfort routine suddenly is going to hurt her feelings and may cause her to resent you and the twins because they still get to nurse!
2007-03-27 20:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, I think that it is probably time to wean her. I know that it will be hard because at this point it isn't about her wanting to nurse but about habit.
If you decide to wean her, the easiest way is going to be to enlist the help of your husband. You are going to want to start having a new bed time routine. Maybe you can give her a bath and read her one book, and then have daddy come in and read her another book alone. Then maybe they can snuggle for a little while, especially if she nurses just to go to sleep. The first few days are going to be hard but it will get better.
It is probably best to do this now rather than when the new babies come so that she doesn't associate it with them and resent them.
If she is really resistant to the change at night, you can always keep her up during the day for a week or so and try the same thing that way. With out a nap she will be very tired and will be ready to go to sleep.
Good luck - I hope this helps!
2007-03-27 20:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firslty can I just say Well done, for tandem feeding for so long and with twins!!!! You are amazing.
It sounds like you are ready to quit the night feeding.
So just explain to her that she is a big girl now and she cant have booby anymore. She is old enough to be able to understand. And at the time she normally feeds, cuddle and read a book. Go and buy a special book just for her for bedtimes. But wear a tight top and a shirt over that so she cant get to your breasts. Or ask her what she would like to do at that time instead of booby, like have a lullaby or just have you cuddle her for a bit and make up stories.
I know I tried everything to wean my second daughter but nothing worked. In the end I just had to tell her that booby was broken because she was a big girl, and would only start working again if I had another baby, because babies need it not big girls. Amazingly she was fine with this and was quite happy to stop. No screaming, no sleepless nights. She just laid down in bed I read to her and she feel asleep. I got the book The Faraway Tree and read that to her.
I wish you luck and just make sure you keep that special time at night with just you and her.
And have fun with all your little blessings :)
2007-03-27 21:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you need to quit breastfeeding the three year old. You should have quit when you were pregnant with the six month old. You're putting a horrible burden on your body by having so many children so close together and continually lactating. You should also wean the current baby in 5months or so when she's able to drink out of a sippy cup. You need some rest on nursing before your twins arrive. It's nice to be able to nurse until the age of 2, but you're having them too close together to do that.
2007-03-27 20:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by Annie D 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You got some really good answers, so I don't have a lot to add there, but I just wanted to comment that you are VERY blessed to have your "hands full" - they will never be as full as your heart. Children are such a joy and you are a very blessed Mama!! CONGRATULATIONS and don't let anyone make you feel badly for having children!!!!
Good luck with the birth of your next set of twins. How fun!
2007-03-27 23:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Momof6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should get her involved in other activities such as dancing/singing and try to hook her up with other 3 yrs old kids. Eventually she will come off it.
2007-03-27 20:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by zama 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time to wean her. Tell her she is a big girl and it is time for her be the big sister. You cannot breast feed them all until they go to college. Time to put your foot down. Sit with her, rock her, talk to her but don't give her the breast.
I think you are taking away from the baby in your womb by doing all this breast feeding to everyone.
2007-03-27 20:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
thats just gross sorry but give the child a cup
2007-03-28 17:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by hugo76 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I think you should knock off getting knocked up. Your breasts are going to be hanging to your ankles in a year or two.
Your three year old should've been off the titty a long time ago. Cut her out completely.
2007-03-27 20:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋