2007-03-27 19:59:28 · 26 answers · asked by pinky 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Support him and his feelings. He believes that he is in love and wants you to validate those feelings. As a young man, I "fell in love" with so many different girls. If I pursued any of those feelings, I was shot down in flames. I'm grateful to my mother for being there with sympathy in my time of great sorrow and heartache. She understood my puppy love feelings and was there to support me as I learned and grew. This is hard for you as a mother seeing your "baby" ready to spread his wings but, if you remain in his life as a support system, you will have the unique opportunity to always be a part of his life. If you blow him off or over-react, you may push him away.
2007-03-27 23:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by dadof7n2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your son knows what it is to love in the sense of how much he loves you and his dad, but when it comes to love in the relationship area he really has no idea. At 13 hormones do funny things to boys and even girls. The see something that makes them feel things and for instance, a girl will tell him he looks good or she may kiss him and boom he is in love. However the first time she does something that he don't like that love turns to disgust. He will go through many changes over the next 2 to 3 years and he will have had a few girls that tickle his fancy but all you can do is guide him and encourage him to go slow and please for peat sake, talk to him about the need for abstinence. A young man should treat a lady with respect and when he does find that one who he really loves he will wait until his wedding night to partake of the fruit.
2007-03-28 05:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. My daughter has gone through her boyfriend stage and wants something concrete from guys now. I'm not sure if I can let go of my son that way yet. :-( He's still my baby (just 10) but he is my sweetheart. I love him to death and hope I have instilled the wisdom I have into those evil girls out there that just want his attention and will hopefully not break his tender heart.
Our sons have such fragile egos now a days, I just hope my son can find someone who will not take advantage of his tender spirit. I hope the best for your son, also, I will pray for him that he meets the great gal (hopefully from a youth group at church) that encourages him to be all he can.
God Bless....
Ps....I'm Christian, not Catholic.....
2007-03-28 03:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your 13 year old son that he could never possibly know what love is @ his age, and no he's not still your baby either. He's a teen now n w/ all the influences of school life expecially that of middle school, he's gonna become very defiant n be embarrased of you.
2007-03-28 03:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let him enjoy it while it lasts and let him learn from the experience. You can't shelter him forever from love. He's a teenager now. If he doesn't learn to develop relationship skills, he'll have trouble later on in life. But just remember there's a fine line between love and sex. I firmly believe you should allow him to spread his wings a little while still making sure to talk with him about sex. That's one thing parents don't do enough of these days in my opinion.
But these are just my opinions. You know your child best.
2007-03-28 03:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make a big deal out of it. He'll be "in love" three more times by the end of this summer.
Freak out though, and he will rebel, even if it means marrying this girl the day he turns eighteen (and divorcing her a year later).
PS: Now's a good time to have discussions about how a good man treats a lady. Point out good and bad examples in his life and in the media.
2007-03-28 03:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by trai 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heh. Not a big surprise. He'll be "in love" many a time before he's 20 so you'll just have to learn how to deal with 'em.
2007-03-28 03:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Alibi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry to much, It's only puppy love ( more of a big crush) you'll be suprised how fast he'll change his mind and twmorrow it'll be another girls he;s talking about. He;ll always be your baby, even when he's forty.
2007-03-28 03:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's NOT (contrary to what everyone is saying) too young to be in love.
He's too young to date.
He's too young to get married.
He's too young to have sex.
But he's not too young to be in love. Weird, I know.
But that's not your question, I know. (And I'm sure people are calling me crazy for saying he can be in love but is too young to date. Whatever.) Your question is whar are you gonna do?
Answer: HE IS STILL YOUR BABY. I'm seventeen and I'm still my parents' "baby". He'll probably always be your baby. But he's growing up, he's a teenager and before you know it he'll be an adult. But you're his mom and you'll always be his mom and nothing can change that.
2007-03-28 14:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by GeekGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sweet. His first little crush. Have a little chat with him and find out what's going on in his head. That way he'll keep confiding in you as he gets older. He'll always be your baby.
2007-03-28 03:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Foxxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋