Last year, my friend and I were really close, but she was more of a leader and expected me to follow her, which, I did. Throughout the year she was horrible most of the time, she totally dissed anyone I made friends with and made me feel really bad so I was horrible to them aswell, she was always insulting my family coz her family's like millionares but mine are'nt, and way more worse stuff, sometimes she could be really nice though, but at the end of the year, I got totally sick of her and told her to shut up-thats all I said and she hasn't spoken to me since, and its been four months. I've got loads of way better friends now, but she keeps backstabbing me and stuff, should I just ignore her or do something about it? Yea, you probably think, just ignore her, but its not that simple when she will go out of her way to hurt me somehow.
2007-03-27 19:53:29 · 11 answers · asked by Charli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Cat fight! Gotta love that high school drama.
Ultimately she wants you to do something. It'll show her that she still has control over your actions, and she knows she can get something out of you if she talks enough about your behind your back and ridicule you.
Yeah ignoring her can be difficult especially when she's gossiping about you. But if you do something you're just giving her what she wants.
Let high school drama be drama and get over it. But if ignoring her is "not that simple", then you kinda answered your own question.
Evey adult her is going to tell you to just ignore her, sense they're adults and they've "grown up". But the barn dances have been outdated for awhile. But still you don't want to go to her level. But it doens't do any harm to point the truth out once and awhile--she talks crap, point how that she's control freak, *****, it's nothing less than the truth right?
2007-03-27 20:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, i HAD a friend like that. We were really close, and when i was really upset about something she was always there and available to talk, but if i wasn't really upset (to the point of crying) and just mad as someone or hurt by someone, she would tell me to get over it, and then tell me about her problems (which usually were something very small, she gets mad at people for the stupidest things), and was never very sympatetic for anything that was bothering me. She would lie to get her way, and she always expected me to follow her, which i did. She talked so bad about everyone behind their backs, and was just plain rude. She would always tell me about how she did this to so-n-so because they made her mad, and always had to have revenge on people. Well, i finally got tired of her, and i made a note of facebook thanking all of my really good friends, and i didn't tag her in it (basically letting her know she wasn't a good friend, and didn't deserve a thank you) and she unfriended me on facebook, hasn't called or talked to me since then (which was what i was hoping for because i knew she'd get mad about that, because she always gets mad about stupid things like that) I know she's probably talking to everyone she knows about how me, and definately not in a good way, and probably thinking of some way to get me back, but i think i mad her most mad when she didn't call me, and i didnt' call her. I'm sure she expected me to call and tell her i was sorry or to see why she was mad, but i didn't, and i know that's why she's so mad. So coming from somewhere very close to you, as hard as it is, i think the best thing to do is to just completely forget about her. I'm sure she is mad because you had the last word, and you should keep it that way.... there are better people out there, and as you said, you already have better friend.... good luck....
p.s. sorry this is so long. haha
2007-03-27 20:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Andii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg...that sounds like the kinda friend i have (but more b*tchier) Ignore her. And if she keeps messing with your life. Take a point of everything she does to you and then scream at her in public (Practice a few times in front of the mirror...you cant be crying when you say it...say it like she's gonna regret this if she isn't gonna stop) If you aren't this type you can always try to talk to her calmly and find out what her prob is.
2007-03-27 19:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is just jealous of you. Just laugh it off, and say, "Ever since I told her what a jerk she was, she has been trying to get back at me. That is soooo immature!"
Never let her or anyone else know that you even care what she says. The more she sees that she can hurt you, the harder she will try. That is what selfish, jealous, spoiled brats do!
2007-03-27 20:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friend eh?She is obviously very insecure and unloved,and has not any true friends, Just ignore her she will get sick of it. Show her you do not care what she says about you .You know in your heart it is not true, She will get her own soon enough. And do not, whatever you do bring yourself down to her level, hold your head high :)
2007-03-27 20:00:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to any spend time and energy on someone like that?
What could you do, sink to her level?
It may take time, but there's an old saying: "Beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes clear to the bone." Money is viewed as beauty in our society. But eventually, who you are becomes more important to people than what you look like, or how much money you have.
If asked about her, find something nice, (and true), to say.
2007-03-27 19:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignoring her is the high road, and yes, it's hard. but hold your head up, keep your self respect. other people will see her for the shallow spiteful person she is and love and respect you for the good person you will become.
2007-03-27 19:57:34 · answer #7 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. You can't spend your life wondering if/when she's going to knife you. Look up 'Persona Non Grata' and treat her as such.
2007-03-28 00:22:23 · answer #8 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worrying about her when u have nicer friends know. forget all about her and enjoy ur new life. its so much better isnt it? Dont waste ur energy and time hating her, she does not deserve that much attention.
2007-03-27 20:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by actnthink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell naw I'd make her feel like **** in front of everybody by dissing her n embarrassing her so bad that if she even thought bout going 10 feet from me she'd just put her head down
~hope you get her good~
2007-03-27 20:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋