How does a straight guy make new friends in a big city?

Question

Not that it's any easier for a gay guy to make friends, but I'll explain the distinction below:

I've worked full time for years, long hours, etc., with friends that were mainly co-workers. Now I'm running my own business solo and suddenly without the co-worker net, I realize my guy friend network is non-existent. So just make new friends, right? Well, how does one make new friends with other guys in their 30s? Guys don't really strike up conversations with other guys (strangers) unless they're trapped in an elevator. That's on fire. And there's a bomb on the roof of the car. And even then, it's weird to ask for a phone #.

I dunno. Any ideas...? Places to go? Organizations? Something?

Answer 1

You have to open yourself up in situations that you may not deem work related. When you're in the grocery store, the movie store, the local bar at happy hour. You need to network for friends like you do for business contacts and cultivate them both. Meet your neighbors. Take them a little gift to say hey, I am glad to meet you and hope we can hang out together. Sometimes just meeting someone that you think might be a great prospect requires nothing more than a friendly hello and a smile. Stap and make small talk about the weather, your business, tell them your trying to make new friends in the big city with similar interests. If you like sports, go to some games and strike up a coversation with some people there (maybe tailgating). If you are trapped in the elevator, just give them a hand shake, tell them you haven't seen them here before (or have) and you just wanted to introduce yourself. Give them your card and say maybe we can have a drink sometime and you can give me some pointers on where to meet nice ladies....etc.

Use your girlfriends too. They can set you up with their exes and friends that may have similar tastes. Good luck. You will do fine. Have no fear, because your smile will do the talking.

Answer 2

I feel your pain. Church is a great place, if you attend or would like to attend an active evangelical congregation. Paint ball, join a league at the YMCA, language groups, the Better Business Bureau may be an option for you. Local Republican or Democrat chapter..... Find a bar with a good regular crowd. Go there several nights in a row and people may warm up to you.

Answer 3

i thoroughly understand the type you sense. i'm a bisexual/gay (nevertheless attempting to discern all of it out) lady and that i latterly confided in my terrific buddy (who's a directly woman) i had an particularly confusing time figuring out to tell her or not because of the fact we've a number of sleepovers and a number of different of the time sleep in a similar mattress. besides the shown fact that i've got not got those kind of thoughts in the direction of her (she feels extra like a sister) i did not understand if she could understand that and if she could not comprehend it would desire to have led to her unexpectedly feeling uncomfortable around me. yet besides i ultimately have been given up the braveness to tell her and she or he grew to become into thoroughly understand-how and supportive. lots to my satisfaction she did not act any in a diverse way around me. surely the night i informed her she slept over at my domicile and we slept in a similar mattress jointly as we continuously do. confiding in somebody made me sense lots extra advantageous and that i don't sense sorry approximately telling her in any respect(: besides the shown fact that the reaction truly relies upon on the guy individual, i thoroughly advise putting your self available and giving it a shot. regardless of in the event that they sense uncomfortable at first im specific your buddy will quickly see which you're a similar individual you have been as till now you reported something. stable success(:

Answer 4

i dont know the answer, but you are pretty funny. it shouldnt be that hard since you have a sense of humor. =D