maybe i am wrong to cheat! but i am human n i need love which huuby is not providing. but now everything i do he knows abt it. i went to see another man, covered my trucks well but my hubby found everything out. he confronted me n i was mouth agape n i denied. what suprises me is that he is fine with it, he said he was hurt but dont act it at all.
i have been throu hell with him n now the only consolation i get from outside he is following it up n ruining my happiness.
why i dont leave him? i almost did, rented an apartment, furnsished it and when i was abt to tell him, he confronted me with the truth abt wanting to leave him n abt the hosue n its location. he cried so much and i was emotioanlly blackmailed and so i stayed.
is this how love is supposed to be? dont they say love is beautiful??
2007-03-27 19:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by Essie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me get this straight... his crying over your breaking the most important vow you ever made to him is 'emotional blackmail'??? I feel like I'm taking crazy pills reading that.
I feel sorry for your husband. He's obviously living in a loveless marriage with a woman incapable of thinking about anything other than herself.
Please do him a kindness and leave. There's nothing in your description to indicate he's anything other than a normal nice guy who has been through hell with you. Hopefully once your gone he'll learn from his mistake and pick a grown up instead of a selfish child next time he's looking for a good woman.
And I hope you grow up too and realize the damage you've done, learn from it, and learn how to *give* love and *be* the type of person who a husband would want to trust and give love to.
2007-03-27 22:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow I can't believe he cried and wants you to stay. He can't force you to stay if you want to go. I say you two should break up. If all this is going on at your home . And now that he knows you have cheated he's going to bring it up when ever he wants. About love being beautiful. You don't love him. If you did you would not have cheated. You say he doesn't give you what you need. So you look for it else where. Tell him that. If he wants you to stay and not cheat. He has to be the kind of man you want.
2007-03-27 19:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought about this, that maybe you did cover your tracks at all points and still got caught was because he himself has traveled or is traveling down the same track? That would explain why you have been so unhappy in your marriage & why he had no earth shattering reaction to your cheating! Its something to think about! Good Luck & God Bless
2007-03-27 22:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by snafudotcom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy! Would I ever dump you, so fast your head would spin!
You could most likely have worked things out without cheating on him, couldn't you? And now, you think your husband is ruining your happiness from outside?
Take some responsibility for your own actions.
Get a life. And get some counseling!
2007-03-27 19:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea what love is sex is not love the love your getting other places is sin and hollow it will not fill your needs just destroy your feelings. You should leave him and not date again till you can grow up and learn what love really is. You need to respect your self atleast a little skanking around is the lowest thing you can do.
2007-03-27 19:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck in the dating world! Someone will grab on to your husband just as soon as you let him go. Then you will appreciate being loved because you will have know whats its like in the dating world (FYI = IT SUCKS) PLEASE BE GLAD SOMEONE LOVES YOU AND DON'T WANT YOU TO LEAVE.
2007-03-27 19:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not what love is supposed to be! You are living a lie.
Leave him and don't go back.
2007-03-27 19:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he knows he has power over you. you need to leave him for good. move away to a different city if possible.
2007-03-27 19:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by billyjoemikey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good grief...if I was him I dump you faster than you could've typed this illiterate message
2007-03-27 19:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A LIFE.................A DIFFERENT ONE
2007-03-27 19:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dale D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋