Guys in their 30's...or ones ready to settle down....What do you look for in a woman?

Question

Regarding serious, long term relationships, what are most important to you from a woman? I ask it in this manner b/c what's important to you now in a mate probably is not the same as would be a 19 year old, etc.

See it's attitudes like Joe B that make me sick about guys... grow up!

Answer 1

I'm 34 and pretty level headed, so I'll give this a go...

The first thing we men notice is looks. Yeah, that never goes away. Men are visually attracted first (although a pretty woman can become ugly fast if she turns out to have an unkind or malicious personality). Women are either 'on the list' immediately for whether guys will date them or they're not. You can ask any guy to scan a room full of women and he'll know right away which women he considers 'datable'. Some women think that looks being important to men makes us shallow creatures. I don't think so, but maybe they're right. Either way looks will always be the first thing we consider, just a fact of life.

Now those of us in our thirties are starting to learn a little about life and grow up just a bit, so most men will realize that looks are far from the most important thing when considering a woman as a mate.

Of far more importance is what sort of personality the woman has. She needs a great sense of humor, a sense of fun, intelligence, maturity, honesty, confidence. Most of important of all: Is she mature enough to know how to be loving? This is not the same as having a sexual appetite (though a wise man will avoid a woman who is uninterested in sex), but speaks to her true nature. Is she kind? Does she take joy in life? Does she take joy in our time together? Does she appreciate the things I do for her?

Things I avoid: If she's malicious, unkind, enjoys hurting others, if she's brittle and ruled by pride (not the same as taking pride in herself). Is she selfish? Does she take people for granted? Is she controlling or insecure?

Also there are a number of intangibles. Do we share tastes in music, movies, theatre, books. If not that's ok, but does she have interests in the areas that are important to me? Do we take joy in our conversations together, even if we happen to disagree on something?

Hope some of that rambling helps...

Answer 2

after having been around the block (or kicked around the block in my case), we typically want to be sure she is nice, reasonable, rational, capable, and not going to treat us like dirt. If you can display that you're not going to make us totally miserable for the rest of what life is left in us, you will have your pick of many guys who would truly appreciate you for who you are.

I guess i can put it more simply; if you don't force us to defend against you, there's a good chance for a great relationship. All a woman has to do is be a decent human being and treat us as a decent human being, and you will have no problem finding a mature guy in his 30's.

Good luck

Answer 3

I'm in my thirties and already married so things I love about my wife and what things drew me close to her are as follows:
Loves God
Loving
Caring
Generous
Kind
Affectionate
Intelligent
Sexy
Beautiful
Healthy
Fit
Independent
Reaches for her own goals in life
Likes to work and spoil's me
Enjoy's sex
Doesn't mind compromise
Non-materialistic
NOT A SHOPOHOLIC
Good with finances
Likes movies and all types of music
Likes camping
Takes care of herself
Doesn't mind house work
Like's keeping a clean home
Organized to some degree

Thats just a few of her great qualities and I hope it give's you a hint though these are things I notice about the person I married and love. Some men just wan't a nice body and a sex slave! ie: Bimbos 'R' us


God Bless!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Kindness. I'm not saying that she should ignore it if I do something awful. But what I mean is don't be mean just because she feels like, or thinks I did something goofy. That's all I'd ever wanted. I don't understand how some people can saw awful things to you, then expect you to love them.
But then, I'm a push-over.
I felt my wife used me. She'd play the game that I shouldn't have friends, just "our" friends (rather, ones she picked). She hated people I knew at work. If I like them, then she accused me of thinking they were more important than she was to me.
Another game was driving me to the poor house with credit cards. Of course, I have no one to blame but myself for having no spine and letting her.
But still, shouldn't kindness be a standard in a relationship?
Anyway, here are my priorities in exact order of what I want in a woman: Kindness, sense of humor, openess, appreciation, relaxed attitude, love of sex (of course).
To me it's irrelevant what she does for me. I never asked for or expected anything. I don't need to be made to feel loved by someone through gifts, or deeds, and ****. Just be NICE!

Answer 6

The most important thing is honesty..if ur man asks you a REAL question,then give him a real aswer...no matter how hard it is. Believe me..im 32 yrs old. Id rather be slaped than lied to.Just be honest hun and youll be fine

Answer 7

seriously,,,,,,,, a man looks for a woman who can cook,clean,do laundry, wash the car, and let him watch sports all day, is this too much to ask ? lol
seriously, men want a woman who doesn't nag this is #1 on out priority list......trust me..... also number 2 is men want and need 'SPACE, if a man gets smothered, he'll run off.

good luck

Answer 8

I'm 36 and my view's on my mate have changed little things i seek are honesty, loyalty, loving,giving, helpful,sincerity,and spontaneous. Things i don't consider looks,income,fashion,popularity

Answer 9

That she's hot and is NOT the town bycicle. And she's HOT and still bouncy. And she's wet.