how can i tell my boyfriend i don't love him anymore?

Answer 1

I told him. Its fine.

Answer 2

Well, if you don't love him anymore he'll probably would have felt something already, such as you are not as reluctant to hold hands or show affection in public. It may be easier to let him feel this "feeling" for a time that you feel comfortable with and also give yourself time to think about how to break it to him. Some people think that sparking up an argument and then saying "oh, let's just break up"! will do the trick, but that just leaves at least someone or both angry. Sitting down and talking about it is the best. A quiet place where you can at least talk in privacy for an hour is good, where you have the time to tell him why things aren't working out and for him to ask you questions on why it hasn't worked. Maybe you want to tell him that "being friends again might make your relationship better, as lovers have a tendency to feel harder to speak out their feelings openly to eachother, and who knows what will happen in the future? Maybe we''ll get back together again". Making sure you won't get disturbed might also be a good idea.

Answer 3

Straight to his face. Don't do it by texting or a phone call. Make a good clean break. Also, you might want to reconsider your feelings for him. Don't act hastily. Find out the true cause of your indifference towards him. Did something he did offend you? If the matter can be resolved without such drastic action, then it need not come to breaking up. The point is, think thoroughly before you decide that it is time to move on. You don't want to be filled with remorse later on, or entertain thoughts of getting back together.

Since most guys usually do not handle rejection well (due to an inflated ego), you might want to drop him gently too. Tell him that it'd be better if the both of you move on in search of your true destiny (however cliched it may sound). Wallowing in self-pity is usually counter-effective. Good luck.

Answer 4

Try to sit down with him in a place that has few distractions and just be honest about why it isn't working for you. Maybe its something he does, maybe its just how you are, but letting him know and not dragging it out is the best and ideal way to discontinue a relationship, especially if it has been years in the making.

My brother in law had the same gf since HS, through college, and then after. They always talked about marraige, but they were too busy with carreers, etc. When I married my husband and they were at the wedding, both of them were there with us. Later they broke up on good terms and have mutual appreciation for each other. They saw how my hubby and I had a true, passionate love for each other, something that had slipped by them as they went through life. They were able to talk about their relationship and what it might be lacking and were able to break up and still be great friends at the same time.

I got to spend more time with her, actually, because she was at my brother in law's wedding last summer. She was really pretty, and had moved on and found someone whom she was dating. I think it is great for both of them that they find true passion in a relationship and are not stuck in a rut just because the partner is just there for them all the time.

Answer 5

You start by not being as available as you used to be. Then he'll start asking what's wrong and the you tell him, that you are busy with whatever you are doing in your spare time, a new hobby and that you are not ready to be going "steady" or even having a serious relationship. That you find you are changing, becoming more mature and that you like him a lot but need to stop seeing him. Don't torture him though, by lingering on and on. Break it cleanly.

Answer 6

Well lets see. Start off by telling him you have grown apart and follow that up by telling him your feeling for him are or have changed. Whatever you do be honest and timely. Don't let another day pass with him in the uncomfterable dark place of uncertainty. You will both undoubtedly move forward in life to right another chapter.

Answer 7

Well the truth sounds more sincere than a full face lie. Tell him your feelings have changed. If you know why, Tell Him! Wouldn't you want to know the truth if it was the other way around. Eventually he will know somethings up when your feelings turn to action and you start rejecting him. I think it would be allot easier to get it over with than prolonging it! For you and Him....Good Luck!!

Answer 8

You should sit down with him and tell him and tell him your reasons why you don't. Make sure you explain yourself so that he knows exactly why and what is going. Just don't leave him clueless. It may be hard but you need to sit down and have a face to face converstation with him about it and let him know whats going on. Just make sure you do this right away though and don't let the relationship go on any longer, because the longer you wait to tell him the more you are going to hurt him. good luck with everything

Answer 9

Don't be so cold hearted about breaking up tho cuz who knows what happens just tell him that things arn't working out with you and him and that you need a break becuz you might end up hurting him but if you don't care then say sorry but i don't love you anymore and i don't think it works if i can't love you (it's Over)!

Answer 10

It helps to tell the truth as he is going to figure it out sooner or later. Why not get
it over with so that you can both move on?

Answer 11

be honest, but dont draw it out and make it painful.

Say it in person, but somewhere neutral so in case he blows up it can be a safe en iroment


dont be mean, you can say you dont feel the same instead of the flat out "i dont love you anymore"...