2007-03-27 19:08:12 · 14 answers · asked by Adam_sandler 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am a perfectly normal person with a very good banking job where I have to interact with companies so many times. I can strike amazing conversation with people and keep them engaged for hours but at heart I don’t feel like doing it often. I had amazing friendships during my university days but now I don’t even call them. Sometimes I get calls from them and feel so embarrassed that I don’t even know what they are doing these days. That hurts me inside and I promise that from now onwards I shall keep in touch with them but same things happens again. I feel so helpless at times. I am wondering is it social pressure that keeps pushing me or something really wrong with me?
2007-03-27 20:01:52 · update #1
Being antisocial has both positive and negative effects, and it depends on yourself, whether you want to be antisocial or not. Antisocial people are sometimes described as introverts. They don't hang out with others often, sometimes even not at all. But by doing so they have more time to spend with close friends and family, more time to consider their personal well being, and can even keep away from bad friends or bad people, as looks can be deceiving, and many people are not actually what they look like. So being antisocial is just fine, although since im not exactly very sociable myself, this topic is certainly debatable and the question to your answer is negligible. I also noticed that the first answer to your question was not very helpful at all. Good question!
2007-03-27 19:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by Jasher3605 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hello. Several things come to mind. Are you being just SOMEWHAT antisocial by being contemplative and introspective? Are you dealing with an issue or issues which you're not comfortable talking about with someone? I tend to think the thing of being antisocial is due to not really having someone with whom you can share your heart freely. Maybe you just feel out of sorts and the like... so you pull into your cave as it were. Being antisocial at times is okay, but if it is something more protracted and such... it's not good for you or anyone else. Should it be the latter you need to get some help. In the meantime find some creative outlets to express yourself, and as the opportunity comes share it with at least one person you can trust. I think the antisocial thing is a symptom of something more serious. Get a friend or pastor to help you alright? Peace!
2007-03-27 19:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you ask if it's okay to be antisocial, that is a value laden question, which makes it difficult to answer, for I don't like to pass judgment on others.
Having said that, antisocial is going actively going against the standard social and societal norms, which is deviant behavior, and typically criminal in nature.
Part of the defination of being antisocial is not having a consious and thus having no regard for the impact your behaviours will have on others, once again likely leading to criminal behavior.
So if you are comfortable with having no regard for, and actively going against societal norms, not caring that your behavior will be met with being incarcerated, due to the harm you will cause others and society in general, then you can say that it is okay.
In reality, it is not something on has an active choice about, antisocial personalities are typically born or made due to a variety of situations. So, I'm not sure if that is the word you are really asking about. Is it okay to disagree with societal standards, sure. No one needs to be a robot and a conformist, but that is a far cry from actively choosing to cause harm to others.
If you simply don't care and want to be excluded from society, go live somewhere isolated away from others... the other option is that you may find yourself in jail for the majoity of your life.
2007-03-27 19:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by Robert S. 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I consider myself somewhat antisocial. At times it makes me sad, and other times I just prefer to be alone. It is 100% OK for you to be antisocial, it just comes down to one thing: are you happy or aren't you? If you're NOT happy, try talking to people more in situations you normally wouldn't. Start small (i.e. strike up a conversation with the person ringing up your groceries behind the register). If you ARE happy, there's nothing wrong with being antisocial. Tons of geniuses, famous artists, authors, and even actors are anti-social, yet have affected human life so greatly. Hope this helps!
2007-03-27 19:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by deanne033 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is my opinion. It is okay to live a quiet, solitary, reserved life for a those who choose a lifestyle that does not harm anyone, but maintains a private life.
an·ti·so·cial
Function: adjective
1 : averse to the society of others : UNSOCIABLE
2 : hostile or harmful to organized society; especially : being or marked by behavior deviating sharply from the social norm
un·so·cia·ble
Function: adjective
1 : having or showing a disinclination for social activity : SOLITARY, RESERVED
2 : not conducive to sociability
so·cia·ble
Function: adjective
1 : inclined by nature to companionship with others of the same species : SOCIAL
2 a : inclined to seek or enjoy companionship b : marked by or conducive to friendliness or pleasant social relations
synonym see GRACIOUS
2007-03-27 19:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in retail most of my life and always had to talk with scores of perfect strangers. So I dream of the day I can sort of drop out of the rat race. It's not that I don't like people, it's just that I've been around too many for too long. I told that to a nurse practitioner once and she thought it was abnormal.
2007-03-27 19:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Carol B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are trying to avoid a lot of drama, yes it's okay. Just work on not being like that all the time. It wouldn't benefit you in the long run. Try to find a job where you have to work around a lot of people. That's what helped me.
2007-03-27 19:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends upon what you mean by anti-social.
True anti-socials have a history of violence, usually preditor behavior and are likely to have no conscience about doing bad things despite knowing they are wrong.
Now if you mean, you're not a very social person... there's nothing wrong with being shy or slow to warm up to people socially. Being the life of the party is hard work and not necessarily a great thing. Its okay to be yourself, like who you are as you are, and to get to others at your own pace.
2007-03-27 19:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Bree 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
sometimes it is and other times it is better to be social
2007-03-27 19:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay. You'd just have to bear the consequences on your own.
2007-03-27 19:10:45 · answer #10 · answered by Marcao 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋