Theres this older man who lives with his family in my apartment building, im 23, hes in his 50s. I live with my Mom there when im not at college. I've known him for 10 years, He does graphic design as a hobby and im into art so we talk. I think i was naive in talking with him, hes not a professional designer, he works as a salesman and does his design for fun.. Well he gave me his card and told me to check out his webpage with his work.. I went to his webpage and there was an image of a girl there in a negative photo affect- distorted- VERY CREEPY,, i got a terrible feeling.. i didnt email him or anything.. ever since then i have been avoiding him like the plague, if i see him i just say hi and run, i could tell he knows something is up with me,, am i overreacting here?
2007-03-27 19:00:52 · 9 answers · asked by Jetglam 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i feel scared of him
2007-03-27 19:01:50 · update #1
Next time you see him tell him you didn't like the picture on his web page, that it gave you the creeps. Don't let him get you alone, either--he sounds like a pervert of some sort. Make your mother aware of the situation, too. She should know that she's living near a pervert, especially since she's alone while you're at school.
2007-03-27 19:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The description you gave :"an image of a girl there in a negative photo effect" is kinda vague.
To me it doesn't sound odd that a graphic designer would be experimenting with negative photo effects.
but if you have an underlying "feeling" about this then perhaps it's based on something about him that creeps you out.
Your 23 ,an adult and you could be upfront with him and ask him about the picture, maybe it is something that has artistic merit for him?
I mean if you look at the "art" of some famous artists and women some of them at first blush are "kinda creepy" - think of picasso.
bottom line trust your gut about him as a person , ...but as an artist keep an open mind
2007-03-28 02:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your instincts.
True story: my mother was a gorgeous young wife shopping alone with me (a kid) for carpeting, when the salesman tried to show her a special deal in the back. She had a bad feeling about it and left. One week later there was an ad on the news. Apparently a young woman had been murdered on that very day in that store fitting her description.
Your instincts are just your body's security system. I'd carry mace or make sure that you aren't alone with this man until he gets the picture. Still... if its only his art that is creeping you out... there is a lot of weird art out there, and its not all made by freaks. I'd avoid him too, but there's probably not anything too insane about him.
2007-03-28 02:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by peachfuzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be overreacting a little but I certainly agree that you are right in avoiding him.
It's okay for a person as young as you to have older friends of the opposite sex, but you should be comfortable with each such friendship and you are not at all comfortable with this guy.
I wouldn't worry about him very much. Chances are he's not likely to harm you unless you give him a lot of access to you, and you aren't doing that.
Trust your feelings. They are probably reasonably accurate.
2007-03-28 02:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learned to do is trust my gut feelings. This guy gives you the creeps. It doesn't matter how long you've known him, obviously him sending you to his website was his way of showing you another part of himself. It wasn't necessarily a good part or a part you want or need to know. I think its a fallacy for people to be expected to be nice to people who creep us out. You can be polite and say you don't care for his company or something like that, but you are not obligated to friends with him just because he lives in your building. Take care, I don't think you are overreacting.
2007-03-28 02:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I would think you should go with your very first instinct with this person. I would not hang around him alone whilst you have these doubts/concerns about him. I think also you should let this be known to your mother, but you should ask him about it. Asking him will give you the chance to hear the answer, but even then I'd stick to my gut instinct... it's trying to tell you something. Take care and good luck.
2007-03-28 02:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he makes you feel creepy you did the right thing. Just say hi and keep moving. He may not have meant for you to react this way, but if that is how you feel, then that is the way it is.
2007-03-28 02:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him, say hi like normal, but pretend you are busy and you have to go right away.
If there is something up, and you are frightened, call the police then.
2007-03-28 02:08:21 · answer #8 · answered by Caring Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him what's up with the picture i mean it kinda creeps me out! but ya know honey guy's can be pervs alot to and he's 50!
2007-03-28 02:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Hailey K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋