Girls....am i getting played by this girl?.....?

Question

were both 17. this girl has pillow fights with me, puts her photo into my phone as wallpaper, calls up my friends, even parents for jokes, even though i dont find it amusing, always laughs at my jokes, she gets very close to me, and wont move away.....and likes to touch me alot, and play with things i have. i get mixed signals though, as sometimes during the day she wont talk to me at all, cause she studies, but when were together she cant stop talking, and offering me food, and drinks, and going out places.One thing she does alot is curls up and goes to sleep for like a minute,and then wakes up, and does it again......whats all this mean???she also tells me about times when shes stressed at school and so forth....one thing thats really wierd though, she likes to know what her name is on my phone when it rings???.........need help, im from canada btw guys. I like this girl heaps, and need her to know that, cause im really scared of losing her to someone else

now the other day i asked her to the movies, and she goes"will you be paying?"...well we never ended up going that night since she got really tired, so i took her back home and left.I asked her this week if she would wnna go movies my shout , and she said she wont be going out for at least 2.5 weeks since shes so wasted from study....what should i make of this?.....i feel she is just playing me along now?....what do you guys think?one really odd thing is she talks to me when she needs help, but other than that i have to talk to her first for her to start talking to me.....via txt/msn etc...is she playing hard to get?, or is she just playing me around....im thinking of not saying anything to her and see how she reacts?im now to a point where ive made so much effort, that im not going to anymore and see where it takes this relationship....good idea?

Answer 1

Sounds like you'd be up for one hell of a roller coaster ride with this one! She's stressing you out like this already! and you want MORE? She sounds too wishy washy to me.

Answer 2

Don't make such a big deal of it, the two of you has this bond of being best friends and if you only pay attention, with all of her signal then you will know and see that it's you that she likes. Yes you will be scared that one day she might turn to someone else, that is why it's you that needs to pay more attention to her. She is showing you all of her affection and attention and if she does not like you, she will not do all those things that she did. She wants you to make her your number one girl, and I think that she is.
Don't mess this up because she is the one that you like and vice versa, follow your heart, be more understanding, be there for her, and most of all show her how important she is in your life by telling her that she makes you feel special every time the two of you are together. Tell her how you feel,even though that she's telling you you are the one thru her signal................likes will turn to love one day so good luck!!

Answer 3

Ha Bro, how much do you want to bet you cant and wont go more than 2 days without calling/texting/emailing this chick.

Shes got you wide open, you know it, shes knows it, and anyone thats seen you both together knows it.

She might like you, but shes playing games too. And the thing is, you know shes playing games and you still wont be able to stop yourself from falling for it.

Just be upfront with her and ask her how she feels about you, this way you get some kind of answer. But yet again be prepared for the double talk in her response, she'll still be trying to play games.

Answer 4

oh, you poor guy.

the best way to know would be to ask her if she has any feelings for you. you do not have to worry about the signals that she sends when she saya that she is studying, because she is telling the truth.
when we have exams and such going on, we don't let anything get in the way of that, or distract us , because we know how important it is to get good grades. this means constant studying, so when she turns you down with this excuse, don't worry yourself.

still, the fact that she won't call you first unless she has something that she wants to say is rather worrying. it sounds like she is using you, probably as some sort of shoulder to cry on. maybe she finds your presence really comforting.

anyway, the best thing to do would be to ask her seriously whether or not she has feelings for you. tell her that you want to know the truth, even if you will not like what you hear.

sometimes, girls are shy about letting guys know how they feel about them. maybe she's getting mixed signals from you too. maybe she cannot tell whether you consider her a really good friend or want something more than that.

Answer 5

wow this girl is way confusing. im 17 as well and i gotta say, usually the stuff you describe with her hanging out with you all the time is pretty flirty stuff, but the whole date mishap is a little strange. the study thing, well i would say if she is a good student, then thats not that weird (im a good student and sometimes i have to not hang out with friends so i can study) of course if she is actually studying.

it could be something where she just wants to be good friends with you, but she has a flirty personality. so look at how she treats other guys that she knows, not how she treats your friends, thats different.

also if she talks to you about stressing out and stuff thats good, it means she trusts you. but since she hasnt talked to you about guys, as in like "omg i have the biggest crush on so and so" or something. if she does that, then thats bad.



but pretty much what i would do is maybe feel her out a little more (idk how long you have known her) and then maybe just come straight out with it and ask her whats going on. its obvious that you care about her, so just be honest, and if she turns you down, just ask if you can be good friends, and im sure she will say yes. :)


good luck!! its stressful, i know, but you can get through it. girls are crazy ;)

Answer 6

She likes you, but is uncomfortable with how to express that. She is trying to connect with you, but you don't seem to like it, so it pushes her back. Try telling her how you feel. It really sounds to me like she is just stumbling through trying to connect...

By the way, being with a girl that won't stop talking is going to be the story for the rest of your life. We talk. Accept it.

Answer 7

Well don't talk to you, emial her, call her, or anything..and see what she does...see if she comes running... Or you can sit her down and explain to her.. that you have got mixed emotions and you want her to know you like her loats, but you don't wanna be played like a fool... honesty is the best way to go..

Answer 8

Maybe she is just really flirty and outgoing, Ask her if she is seeing anyone else.

Answer 9

to me it seems like she treats you as a bestfriend/go-to guy.

Answer 10

ask her out.. gee that was hard!