Whats up with guys saying all these bad stuff.....?

Question

....about marriage??? I dont know about you but im not so sure you've been dating the right person! Why so reluctant with marriage??? JOE B: this one's especially for you...
im watching you mate ;)

im happily married to the man of my dreams!!

Answer 1

Take it from someone who's been married. People that diss marraige have never had a good one. Half of all marriages break up. There are many good and bad reasons for this results. People change, outside events force unexpected problems, some suffer tragedy, some get sick, there's stress, lack of money, the list goes on. Marriage is only for those who know themselves well enough to choose an appropriate mate.

Answer 2

Joe B has been around the block and learned the hard lesson. Marriage is never going to make an unhappy person happy. In fact it will make things worse. Once the knot is tied you can bet your life she will change for the worse. Nearly every woman does regardless what they say. A lot of women still subscribe to the Disney World type true love fantasy. You know, the tall, dark and handsome guy that comes ridding in on a white horse to bring her happiness and true love. True love does not exist. Love is only a perception of what you believe it should be. When in fact love is only a commitment to continue to care about a person. Nothing more than that. Once the woman realizes your not fulfilling that ideal figure she will resent you. Which, will lead to bitterness and a lack of what you married for in the first place. Of course not all women are the same and some have a different perception of the ideal man. However, they all have expectations that in reality a man cannot fulfill nor want to. Not to mention once to do get married you forget about all the little freedoms you have that will be lost. Making decisions will become a two party event usually with a veto. If you do happen to pass your idea it will become bloated with pork for her. Sex becomes a very one sided deal. You will now have two people to clean up after. You better not stop at a store on your way someone without first calling to get the list. Those are only some of the little things that become a mental prison from day to day. Which, will also help bury that so called passion deeper in the soil. Then finally don't dare divorce her or you are going to pay dearly. Everything you own, can make or steal will become hers no matter who is at fault. That's comes compliment of your local government. You talk about Joe B and his comments on yahoo. Joe B is no idiot despite what some may think. He knows exactly what marriage is all about be a good one or bad one.

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Answer 3

Just like some men play the model boyfriend and then become a bad partner after marriage, there are women who do the same things.

The problem is many of these women end up getting 1/2 of what he worked for, but he doesn't get 1/2 of the parenting time with his child if she "follows her heart" decides she is not happy, that her vow was "a mistake" instead of being a promise regarding how she was going to behave. She sleeps with another man or men and pays little, if any costs for her hurtful behavior.

Marriage can be a very bad deal for men, and that's largely due to the behavior of women in those cases.

And to Cassandra above, 2/3rds of divorces are filed by women, so the ones who are quitting instead of doing the hard work of marriage appears to be women at a 2:1 ratio.

Answer 4

I don't blaim the guys. Marriage sucks! Don't get me wrong. Married is a nice thing in many ways, partnership, responsibility sharing, etc. But really and truly, when you get wrapped up in the responsibilities of life, when you get stuck in a day in day out routine, when you are so tired from working and caring for kids that you would rather sleep than have sex, when you have heard eachother take a crap one too many times, it really just kills the happy buzz. It wedges something that was so amazingly perfect and turns it into... well crap, it's turns it into regular old life. I think we as women, get sucked into this stereotype of marriage, kids, family buidling. If we would just take a step back to appreciate a good relationship, enjoy going home to our own house, mess, bills, or whatever... Be content that we're not racing with anyone. Learn to really just be happy with ourselves, love ourselves and be satisfied with what we have and who we are instead of always searching for more. Once your married there isn't a lot further to go. Part of the excitement in a realtionship is the challenge to conquer it. So you get married. Now you've conquered it. What next? Just the 7 year itch and the doubt about whether your decision was the best one to have made.

Thankfully guys seem to sense all this before they take the leap. This gives us girls that challenge we need, but it should do more than that. It should make us stop and process the full picture... Don't be in a hurry.

Answer 5

from what I've seen, the men complaining (and plenty women do too) are whining because marraige wasn't the big sex fest they think all the single guys are out there having.

They fell in love with someone without really knowing them, someone changed (life does that to you) and the other person did NOT change with them... here comes divorce court.

Marriage is not for babies: you have to be willing to work at it sometimes and ride out the times when it's not so glamorous. But the payoff is a subtle one and lots of people just aren't mature enough to appreciate how awesome that payoff can be. Especially the companionship part; it's vague but wonderful to have someone you know will always be on your side working with you. If you are married to someone who isn't making you feel supported, then someone needs to grow up.
Then there's just the selfish types: wahh! I got married and its not all hearts and flowers and wanton sexcapades every minute of the day! I've got neeeeeeeds! Guess what? When you decide to share a LIFE with someone else you make promises to sometimes put your needs aside for them or for the betterment of you both. It's called "delayed gratification" and learn to deal with it because that's what adult life is all about.

Get a helmet, whiners. If marriage isn't for you and you're "stuck" in one, then you need to start rolling up your sleeves and work on making it better instead of blaming it all on the other person or marriage in general.

Answer 6

Now look here...I've been married for 10 LONG years. I don't know how I did it...but marriage has NOT been good to me. Too many missed opportunities, too many sacrifices...all for what?

Sex, companionship, kids...? I just don't know if its worth it.

Sex: I can get sex very easily from all these cheap breezies that are hitting on me at work.

Kids: I love them, but overrated...I still love them a lot.

Companionship: Whatever, do I really need somebody telling me what I can and cannot do? Who I can stick my pecker in?

That's marriage to me...

Still, I won't divorce.

Why? Because I have gotten used to the double income that me and the wifey bring in. Plus she's HOT still so the sex is very good. Plus, she's going to give me a threesome...that's right!

So come talk to me when you've been married at least 10 years and see how you feel about marriage then.

Thanks,

Joe B

Answer 7

You said it Val dating, dating,dating.

Wait until the marriage then you ll appreciate Joe B. and understand him.

I suggest you stay single and dating for a looooon time

Good luck mate.

and Joe keep the pecker at home, and keep dreaming about your threesome, never gonna happen.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Marriage is for suckers!
ask any husband......JUST LOOK AT THEM...dead like a broken spirited horse.
Guy walks into his bedroom see's wife packing and ask's why? she says she's going to NEW YORK because they get 400 bucks for what she does for him for free. He says I am going with so i can see how your going to live on 800 bucks a year!
Yes we want sex don't you? I think we should get SOMETHING besides the bills, all womens shortcommings, a raw deal, and a headache don't you?

Answer 10

Marriage is like many things in life, it's a gamble. Throw the dice and hope...